'He ‘wont’ let me adopt a cat because of this argument about a dog that’s not even on the agenda in the near future': Shelter cat adoption spat has 26-year-old reconsidering 6-year relationship to purrsue her dream cat amid rising tensions

This devoted cat lover has always found comfort and joy in the company of animals. Having grown up with pets, being around them feels like second nature. Now, even as an adult, she spends most of her week at her mom's house just to be near her family's furry companions. It's part of her happiness. Her boyfriend, while also raised with pets, doesn't share the same deep love for them. After six years together and three years of living together, they're facing a furry fork in the road.

She wants to adopt an adult shelter cat, a specific one she's waited six weeks for. But her boyfriend insists it's not the right time because he wants a dog "someday." There's no timeline for this imaginary pup, just a vague future bark blocking a very real purr now. She's tried reasoning, but he won't budge, leading to tension growing and full-on arguments breaking out.

Now she's torn between staying in a relationship where she feels unheard and unfairly compromised, or walking away. With the cat finally available and her partner unwilling to budge, she's wondering if it's time to stop pawsing her dreams and put herself first.

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It’s not fair he gets to chase his dream pet while you can’t adopt yours. Especially when your perfect cat is ready and his future dog is just a “sometime” idea hanging in the balance.
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Fostering sounds like a fair compromise. Maybe the cat will grow on him, and you both get to keep her. It’s a pawsitive way to test the waters without rushing decisions!
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Not living together could be another solution, but after three years of sharing a home, that might be a tough idea to swing, especially when emotions and routines are so intertwined.
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