25-year-old woman puts jealous sister-in-law in her place when SIL accuses her of “shoving her dreams in her face” for posting vacation on Instagram: “It’s not my fault you don’t get time after the baby”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 29, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Oh, the wonders of social media. It's really shocking to me that social media can be so obviously fake, contrived, and conceited, but people will still put it on some weird pedestal of lived experience. Who decided that going on a plane, flying to another country, and walking around licking gelato was better than staying in your hometown doing what you're habitually used to doing? I think whatever makes someone happy is what should create envy, not just a blind notion of the unknown. Social media is like looking at someone through a veil, a filter; it's an avatar that has remnants of the real person in real life, but isn't an equal translation. 

We live in a strange world where we desire an image more than the real thing. Even many men desire a woman on their phone compared to a real woman in real life. I don't see any way we're going back to not having these notions, ideas, and opinions about what's cool and what isn't, but we can try. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    Aita for telling my SIL it’s not my fault she doesn’t get time to herself after the baby?

    "Why are you shoving your dreams in my face?"
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    So my SIL is being very difficult with me, she does this a lot. She kinda drops her problems on me and expects me to pitch in to
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  • Envy is a hard-to-swallow pill. No one wants to feel it, no one wants to deal it. Dealing with it means looking inward at oneself, it's a product of the dissatisfaction one feels within oneself, and not about someone else. 

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    help. So why we get into as many disagreements, when I start setting up boundaries now I'm TA.
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    Sil(29F) op(25F) brother(42m) So my SIL is a SAHM to 3, had her 3rd child 2 months ago. My brother works full time at a warehouse job, so he's rarely
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    home. He's been on maternity leave since the baby arrived, SIL said he helps sometimes with the feeding but doesn't change the baby since he feels uncomfortable doing it.
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    She vents a lot but she beats around the bush to get me to do things for her, things that should be discussed about with her partner. I felt like the third parent,
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    I asked her if she could stop telling me her personal business with my brother because that's not my right to know.
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    Anyways, my SIL called me up. I thought it was her usual rants so I was going to hang up but it wasn't, she called because she wanted to know why I went out.
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    the country without telling her. I didn't think I had to honestly, she was more upset because she doesn't get time to herself. She the went on her rant saying she
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    never gets a break, lost her friends, why am I not with my child, and I'm shoving my dreams in her face. Why am I blamed for that? She only knew I was
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    somewhere because I posted it on my instagram story, that was all and I wasn't shoving it in anyone's face. I told her that
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    wasn't my fault she doesn't get time and she needs to talk to her husband about those problems because I can't fix them.
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    Motor-Juggernaut... • 7h ago I stopped reading when you said her husband didn't change diapers. She needs him to man up.
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    No_Secret_4560 • 7h ago Block her on IG so you can save her from having to see you living your life.
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    Godiva Plaistow • 7h ago Does she know she married your brother, not you? NTA
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    System_Resident ⚫ 7h ago She needs to take her frustration out on her husband and stop being a moron. This is her third kid,
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    she knows better by now. You don't get a break from being a parent. She shouldn't have had another kid if she was already so
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    miserable with the first 2 taking up her time. NTA she needs to grow up and so does her husband. She's not entitled to anything from you
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    a_br4r • 7h ago NTA. She's the one to blame not you. She KNEW your brother wouldn't help her so why
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    have a second child let alone a third one with him?! It's best to keep her at an arm's length. Recommend she sees a therapist if she
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    wants someone to vent to. If she claims you don't care about her, just reply with "you're never happy for me so why should I?!".
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