22-year-old bride plans honeymoon on her in-laws' property, 24-year-old groom refuses to tell parents that they have to leave, bride furious claiming they have no boundaries: 'They can’t stay for our honeymoon'

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Emma Saven
Aug 5, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

When one begins dating for marriage, loving in-laws become an essential part of any relationship. You want your parents to adore your partner like their very own sons or daughters. 

And we can only hope that his mother will be someone who loves sharing her clothes, her recipes and most importantly, her son. 

I've always wondered what my in-laws would be like when I finally decide to put on a white dress and walk down the aisle. Will they be loving and warm? Welcoming and enthusiastic? Well, a girl can dream. So yes, there is no doubt that we want our partners to have a close bond with their parents, that would have a domino effect on our relationships with them. 

But…there has to be boundaries!

See, here for example. We love family game nights, Sunday barbecues, and would not even mind sharing the same neighborhood avenue, but having your in-laws stay at your honeymoon venue with you is just, how do we say this as nicely as possible… diabolical!

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  • Clingy, Awkward, Boundary-crossing…

    Just a few key words to keep in mind when reading through this couple's dilemma, one that should definitely be overcome before the wedding festivities take place…An issue, that to many people would seem obvious, but to this groom, is not so unusual? Making the whole situation that much more worrying!

    Goodluck babe. As Princess Diana once said, with a bit of a twist: There were (four) of us in this marriage…

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    "He suggested we could honeymoon somewhere else at a later date, but still spend the week after the wedding with his parents"
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    AITA for telling my fiancé to set boundaries since his parents are going to our honeymoon?

    I (22F) moved in with my bf (24M) when we got engaged. We live on 40 acres and his parents live on the property with us. I love them like my own parents. We go over
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    for meals, game nights, and to hang out. My bf and his dad are best friends and they do all kinds of projects together. When his parents are out of town, they call
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    every night to talk business and chat. When we go on vacation, his parents come with us. Lately it seems excessive, but I keep it to myself. We're getting married in
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    Nov. on another property that my bf, his sister, and their parents own together. There's plenty of space for both our families and
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    friends, and everyone is leaving the day after the wedding so we can honeymoon for a week there. That is, everyone except his
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    parents. When I found out they were planning on staying, I told my bf I didn't want them there. I feel like since they're his parents,
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    it's his responsibility to tell them to leave. He said it wasn't a big deal. I told him it was weird and I wanted it to just be us. He suggested we could honeymoon
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    somewhere else at a later date, but still spend the week after the wedding with his parents. I told him no because I have limited PTO, we planned on
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    honeymooning there ALONE, we're trying to save money, and I don't want to be the couple that never ends up having a
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    honeymoon cause they keep saying they'll have it later. I said he needs to tell his parents to leave at the same time everyone else does. He told me no since his
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    parents are part owners (even though his sister is leaving with everyone else). We kept talking and I told him it feels like his
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    parents are his family rather than he and I being our own family and that I wanted to start setting boundaries with his parents, the
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    first one being that they can't stay for our honeymoon. He said he didn't understand why I was so emotional about this (mind you I wasn't emotional till he said that).
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    Once he said that, I stopped talking cause I felt invalidated and I didn't want to get emotional and prove him right. He's refusing to discuss it anymore and it's
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    making me wonder if I crossed a line by telling him he needs to set boundaries with his parents. So AITA?
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    Donutsmell NTA. He is showing you what your life will be like. You may love his parents like your own, but they are ALWAYS going to be there. The honeymoon is the tip of the iceberg. Do you want them fully enmeshed in every aspect of your life going forward? It doesn't sound like you do, and your boyfriend isn't budging. Proceed carefully.
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    LavishnessGeneral NTA This is a glimpse of what the rest of your life with him is going to be like.
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    Classic_Might_5948 You are NTA. Your husband is. He needs to step back and listen to what you are saying and realize that your marriage is now his primary family and protect that family at all costs.
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    Endless63 NTA.. it's your honeymoon.. your fiance is a total AH who learns to read the room, just like his parents.. what parents would want to insert themselves into a couples honeymoon.. totally weird..
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    Gold_Head7582 Straight talk... you both have more you need to work through before you are ready to get married. There are communication issues, boundary issues, having each others back and being each others first priority.
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    LifespanLearner NTA. Wanting your honeymoon to be private is fair. Boundaries with parents, especially after marriage are normal. Your fiance should respect that and support you. If he can't see why it matters, that's a bigger problem than just the parents staying.
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    teanovell NTA. Tell him either they're going on the honeymoon or you are, not both. Who WANTS their parents on their honeymoon?!
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    kjatt0628 Have your honeymoon somewhere else. It's shared property so you can't ask them to leave. You might also risk your good relationship with them. If they don't have the sense to let you two be alone then either you save your money and have your honeymoon with the parents or you spend a little and have the privacy you need. Your bf is the AH for being overly clingy with his parents.
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