29-year-old pays parents' mortgage for four years, faces pushback he asks to put his name on the deed: 'My mom accused me of trying to steal the house'

When it comes to the levels of support between parents and adult children, it's more common for moms and dads to be offering assistance to their kids, at least when they are younger and finding their feet. However, it can also happen the other way around as well. There are plenty of adult children who find themselves in a better financial position than their parents, and then feel obligated to help them out. It's a natural instinct.

However, depending on factors such as income level and attitude, it is possible for this kind of arrangement to be taken too far. It's unfortunate, but some families start to treat their kids like a free ATM that doesn't need anything in return. This inevitably leads to tension, and at its worst, can permanently sever relationships. It is rarely a good idea to treat your children like a primary bill payer or retirement plan.

AITAH for asking my parents to put my name on the house if they expect me to keep paying their mortgage?

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A 29-year-old came to this realization after facing pushback from his request that he be named on his parents' mortgage. His reasoning for this was that he had been paying it for nearly four years after they ran into financial difficulty and risked having the property repossessed.
His parents became angry at this suggestion, accusing him of entitled behavior. He wanted to know if he was unreasonable in his feelings.
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