28-year-old guest leaves bachelorette trip early after discovering she's expected to cover bride's share of the trip, she refuses after only budgeting $500, then gets uninvited from wedding: 'She got the most expensive meals, drinks, and flights'

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Emma Saven
Aug 19, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

There's nothing we love more than seeing women support other women's success and happiness. And what better example of that than a magical bachelorette party surrounded by the ones you love most?

It's every bride's dream to have her best friends by her side throughout the entire wedding journey, from start to finish. So what could possibly go so wrong that one of those besties, who has been there from the very beginning, ends up no longer welcome at the bridal shower, or even invited to the actual wedding?

What could be that friendship-damaging? Either she's secretly seeing the brother of the bride or cancelled every flower delivery order…but other than that, we're struggling to think of a valid reason?

Then we unraveled the delicate situation: The disaster of the bachelorette party. 

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  • This bachelorette guest is left feeling extremely uncomfortable when she finds herself asked to cover the bride's portion of the trip, after specifically budgeting only $500 for herself. She is happy to cover a meal or two…but the whole trip?

    That seems a bit extreme. Maybe certain traditions should be a thing of the past? You wanted the wedding, surely you should pay for your guests throughout the experience? 

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    Bridesmaid Bridesmaid Briders budesmai "I understand paying for certain things for the bride but I wasn't expecting to pay for her entire trip"
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    AITA for leaving a trip early because it got too expensive

    I female (28) went on a bachelorette for the weekend. Prior to the trip i let the group chat know that im on a budget
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    and need to know the expenses in advance before i can agree. We all agreed on around $500 which i thought was doable. Before
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    getting there we paid for the hotel and ride around since we were drinking. Which was $300. We split it to where the bride
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    wouldn't pay for these which I was fine with. Then when I arrived, we had our dinner planned and went to a fancy
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    restaurant. I ordered the cheapest meal and then one of the girls took the bill and paid. Then following day i asked how much
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    the tip was to pay my portion and the girls responded to just spilt the check and i said no my meal was nothing compared to them.
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    Then they expected us to pay for the bride for everything she's ordered the entire trip while she's was getting the most expensive
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    meals and drinks/flights at places. Then said why would you come here and not pay for everything for her. I understand paying for
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    certain things for the bride but i wasn't expecting to pay for her entire trip. Other bachelorettes ive been on didn't do that.
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    However if they would have told me in advance I could have planned, everyone knew but me. I told the bride that the girls were
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    r de and that i can't afford to stay and I'm uncomfortable. She said it was fine she appreciated my time. Keep in mind i wasn't
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    invited to the wedding because she couldn't afford it. Then uninvited me to the bridal shower and as a friend.
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    CressImaginary8126 I'm sorry, you weren't invited to the wedding but you WERE invited to the bachelorette party?! Someone's an AH here and it's not you.
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    GirlDad2023 They weren't really your friends, you were just a convenient ATM for the bridal shower. NTA.
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    RealTalkFastWalk NTA, you went in on good faith and were upfront about your limits. These girls are going to be paying 3x the cost in credit card interest for months while you move on to better things.
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    Horror-Article7752 NTA, been there and honestly if the flight wasn't so expensive I would left early too. I'm dis ed so I can't work as much as the other girls and I also didn't realize that even though I bought her flight and her wedding gift, the other girls were expecting me to help pay for all her meals and her portion for Ubers as well. I never want to go to another bachelorette party.
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    Workinonit16 OP Yes, I refuse to go on another Bach trip.
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    Tired-Fussy Wedding culture is out of control. I feel like you shouldn't get presents or have ceremonies until you've been married 10 years. That's commitment!
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    EnterpriseGate I cant understand why the bride would not pay for herself. It is her wedding. is wrong with people?
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    sist_x This post seems so odd. They knew you were tight on money. Bride said she understands you couldn't afford the rest of the trip. Then uninvited you to the bridal shower and wedding? Being at the
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    bridal shower as a friend should be enough. And assuming tradition is still in tact... guests usually don't pay for anything at a wedding, they suddenly couldn't afford your attending?
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    ToastetteEgg NTA. You asked what expenses would cost and they said $500. That should be all expenses. To expect you to shell out hundreds more without warning is a- holish. I would also have left. Be glad you don't have to repeat their performance for a shower.
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    Zefram71 Nta, These people sound terrible. You don't need them in your life.
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