Disney adult, Amy, confronts friend after they tell her going to Disney is ‘not something they'd spend money on', friend refuses to apologize: ‘It's not like you're any better than me'

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    AITA for making someone feel "stupid" over vacation differences?

    I (F30) love to travel. While I do LOVE to sit on a beach with a book, my favorite vacations are the type where you walk around a ton,
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    sightsee, visit historical sites, museums etc. My wife (37) and I are big "stop and read this sign about a horrible battle took place 300 years
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    ago" types. We also like camping and hiking and getting into nature. We are DINKS and fortunate enough to have a lifestyle where we can take trips like this.
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    We recently got back from two weeks in Bergen and the surrounding areas. This was definitely a more physical trip, we did Trolltunga and all that.
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    Last night was a party at our friends house, and I got into conversation with "Amy" who is a friend of another friend who was invited. From what I
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    know of the few times I've met her, she does seem to be into very mainstream things. Which is fine! I watched almost all of Love Island on the flight home, Imao.
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    I told Amy about our vacation and all that and she said she doesn't take trips like that, but she goes to Disney instead. She has apparently been quite
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    a few times. She asked if I had ever been and I said "no that's not really my thing" and then she kept on saying why and how amazing it was and just
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    said "it's not the type of thing I think we'd spend our money on." You would think I had cursed her out? She looked really
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    huffy and said something like "it's not like you're any better than me for going hiking and doing "cultured" things you know" and left.
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    I am so flabbergasted. I don't think Amy told anyone, but I told my wife. She said not to worry, that's insane but? Did I
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    break some weird unknown rule? Did I seem classist? Am I the a hole?
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    ShadowsObserver Soft NTA, with the caveat that telling someone something they love is not worth spending your money on does
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    sound harsher and more judgmental than if you'd just stuck with a simple "It's not the type of thing we enjoy."
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    RandomName8844 But that's what OP started with. She told Amy that's not really their thing and it wasn't until Amy asked why and kept going on about how amazing it was that OP said that's not something they'd spend their money on. She tried.
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    Leather_Antelope2508 OP That is fair. I certainly didn't mean to sound judgemental but of course that doesn't mean it wouldn't be read as judgemental. Thanks.
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    MagnanimosDesolation I don't know why it's important to say you don't like something. Just say "that sounds fun!"
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    Vegetable_Burrito OP literally said ‘it's not our thing' and the Disney adult doubled down. Op is fully NTA.
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    Only-Ingenuity 7889 I'll be classist - experiencing the world around you and other societies IS more cultured than going to Disney over and over. (I say that having done much traveling and having worked for Disney)
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    That said, she projected her own insecurities onto the conversation. You each have preferences that make you happy. You don't have to understand the others motivation. NTA
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    challahbee You just ran into a classic Disney Adult. There are two kinds of Disney theme park fans: people who love going to the parks and hanging out and having a good time, then going
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    home to their lives, and then there are Disney Adults. These people make it their entire personality, and have sunk a lot of money into Disney timeshares, Disney cruises, merch, apparel, accessories for their
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    car, their Stanley, etc, and get really huffy if you don't see the same value in it as they do, because they assume you're looking down on them. It's kind of exhauisting.
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    NTA. She thought you were yucking her yum, but really I think she's just being insecure.
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    fat_mummy I'm a typical all inclusive, sit on the beach, or Disney vacation go-er. My best friend is an adventure paddle boarding, camping in her own camper van vacationer. I know she'd hate my vacations and I'd hate hers. Different strokes for different folks and all that!

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