Woman stuck working for a CEO who's best friends with her sister, gets tired of him making separation of personal and professional life an impossible (work-life) balancing act: ‘[My] work relationship and my personal life are becoming too intertwined’

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  • My boss is friends with my sister

    "My boss is friends with my sister"
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  • I feel it maybe helpful to give a full background of the situation. The CEO of my company is friends with my sister.
  • She mentored him throughout college, I believe she helped him get his first job. And they've been working closely ever since.
  • She is now on the board for my current job. She helped to get me on at this job - both times (I'll get to that in a second.)
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  • But I fear the work relationship and my personal life are becoming too intertwined and I'm annoyed of it.
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  • The first time I worked for him was right after the pan mic (2021). I was fired because I wrote a not nice email I will admit.
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  • Basically in the email I was asking for a particular employee not to do my work while I was out and I promised to get everything caught up when I got back.
  • He initially agreed to this, but then the day before I left, he and the employee I asked not to do my job, put their heads together and decided against it.
  • I take a lot of pride in my work and the girl who wanted to do my work while I was away did not know what she was doing which would leave me to clean up her mess.
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  • It would have been easier for me to just do the work myself. I added her to my angry email as well which I guess is what made it worse.
  • When I got back from vacation I was fired. I feel that I must mention I had no prior issues to this situation.
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  • No write ups, no final warnings. Nothing, just this email. Even when he was firing me he mentioned how amazing my work was but he didn't feel I was a culture fit.
  • Fast forward to now, I've been rehired. I spoke to him before beginning to work again and we both agreed to put the past behind us and start fresh.
  • He admitted that firing me how he did was one of his biggest regrets career wise and he wanted to make a mends.
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  • I told him that I was younger and have learned a lot since then and would do better about my temper this time around.
  • I don't feel like he's left the past in the past. I honestly don't think he likes me. I think he rehired me as a favor to my sister.
  • So he could clear his conscious of wrongly firing me and get into my sisters good graces - he doesn't want to look like a bad guy in front of her.
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  • When I started back working there it was almost serendipitous, his medical biller (that's my role) had just quit and I had quit my job two weeks before that.
  • Felt like kismet. Since I've been back he's made little snide remarks about how I used to be and telling people not to get on my bad side etc.
  • It's very upsetting because that's not who I am anymore and all of the other employees are new to me and I don't like that he's giving them such a negative impression of me.
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  • On to the reason I originally wrote this post. I requested off for Monday on the Friday before. It's was denied but I still needed the day.
  • So I called out on Monday due to a family emergency. I understand that this looks bad on my part and I own that.
  • He had lunch with my sister and asked her how our family was. She was confused.
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  • I hadn't told her because I didn't think it was that big a deal and it was none of her business.
  • Also, I must add that I am married, so the family emergency could have been on my husbands side, they just assumed because they know me and my sister that she must be aware of the family emergency.
  • I find that odd. Any other employee this would not happen with. But since he knows my sister he does these very unprofessional things.
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  • My sister thinks he can do no wrong and swears that he wasn't doing it in a malicious way and that he was just asking as a friend but I don't believe that.
  • I believe he was trying to catch me in a lie. I feel like he's making my workplace harder than it has to be so that I will quit and he can say that he tried to give me another chance and that I quit on my own this time in order to save face.
  • Mind you the only person who has unwavering support for him is my sister. The office as a whole do not enjoy his leadership.
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  • I know that doesn't say much, a lot of bosses aren't liked but it's odd that my sister doesn't believe me over him... I think I need to look for a new job.

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