'She has been divorced 3 times in 8 years': Woman accuses mom of favoritism after supporting son’s decision to exclude her new boyfriend from family wedding photos, after previously demanding they delete photos with her exes, threatens not to attend

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Emma Saven
Sep 17, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

They say third time's the charm, and for many, it is! But many's new monthly flavor won't be part of any wedding pictures or Christmas cards anytime soon. As much as the brother wants to include his sister's new boyfriend in his and his wife's wedding photos, he knows the likely outcome: a bunch of cut-up family photos, just like with her three ex-husbands over the last eight years. Girl, good for you. Some of us can't even find four good friends in eight years, but three husbands? At least she's efficient.

So when her brother gets their mother to explain the photography plan, that her new boyfriend will be excluded from group shots, she loses it, threatening not to attend the wedding and pulling her son from the wedding retinue.

Suddenly, a few wedding photos have sparked a massive family feud, with neither sibling willing to back down. The brother knows his wedding photos will be hidden away if they ever break up, while she refuses to embarrass her boyfriend of seven months in public. Now the question is: will she protect her boyfriend's feelings or be there for her brother on the most important day of his life?

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  • This sister claims that her mother is constantly taking her brother’s side. Whether true or false, we can agree that this situation does call for a bit of awkward prior planning. Especially when her brother and his wife want to be able to pull out and reminisce at their wedding albums without a potential sigh, eyeroll and possible page-tear from his fast-falling sister. Once a romantic, always a romantic…but let’s try to keep that romance away from the cameras for a little while.


     

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    AITA for asking telling my 3 time divorced daughter that her boyfriend can’t be in family photos

    My son is getting married to his long time girlfriend next month. A few weeks ago, he approached me that his fiancée does not want
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    my daughter's new boyfriend in the family wedding photos. My daughter has been divorced 3 times in 8 years. While all three
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    have been difficult situations for her and the current bf seems nice enough, we've only known him 7 months. We have had a lot of
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    family photos that she insists we must destroy. With that thought in mind, my son and his fiancee have decided that while the new
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    guy can be in random photos and even a photo with just them and the bride/groom, they do not want him in any photos they may
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    not want to destroy later. Thinking it would be best if I handled it, I volunteer to tell her. I got with the photographer (my
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    best friend) and we made a list of planned photo groupings and named who would be in those photos. There were some that
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    included the new guy, but he was not in any family photos except for one that had both friends and family in it. I casually show her
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    the list telling her I'd had this great idea to make a list to help keep photo time at a minimum. She immediately noticed the
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    discrepancy. She told me in no uncertain terms that she would not attend if we planned to embarrass her bf this way because his family has included
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    her in birthday photos, and wedding photos already. She called my son and he confessed that it was his idea. Now she says
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    not only will she not come, her son can't be the miniature groom. She is accusing me of always seeing my son's side. Was I wrong??
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    Inherently Rainbow NTA. If she's had three husbands and she insists that no photos of her previous husbands are allowed to exist in the family, then she shouldn't be surprised when people don't let her new boyfriend in pictures just in case.
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    NUredditNU Idk what a miniature groom is but your daughter is ridiculous. 7 month bf after 3 divorces? She can fake embarrassed all she wants, no one has to have her flavor or the month in memories they plan to cherish for a lifetime. Definitely NTA
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    ccam04 NTA. My family takes Christmas photos every year. My mom's solution...one photo with the girlfriend/boyfriend, one without. My brother has had two 4+ years relationships. My mom loves the photos and simply swapped out the hung photo once my brother and his girlfriend broke up. We can keep the family photo up. The memories of that day were special and we don't have to keep a picture of an ex in our home or trash a cherished photo.
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    DarkestStar167 She has a history... of expecting other people to destroy photos that SHE didn't pay for. Why not tell it to her like it is... something along the lines of "we've destroyed enough pictures just because an ex happened to be in them. Pictures are meant to last forever. We won't be destroying any more. If that means your bf can't be in them, so be it". I've had FWBs last longer than all 3 of her marriages put together.
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    ProfessionalEcho2681 NTA. Doesn't matter to me if she's been married 0 or 6 times, he isn't family. And it isn't her wedding... not yet anyway ☑
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    Shdfx1 NTA. I am so confused. Why would someone she's just dating be in any wedding photos at all? Why have you been destroying 8 years of family photos because her exes were in them? Get him photoshopped out if you want to, but no one should dictate you destroy your own photos.
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    intrigued267 I would tell her that if she wants to choose her bf of 30 seconds over her family, that is her choice. Do NOT give in to her ultimatums!!! Just do without a mini groom unless she comes to her senses and realizes how ridiculous she is.
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    Western-Gazelle-106 Super side note, in high school and my early 20s | used to sharpie faces/chop off heads, etc. But, my epiphany when I was like 30, was, all memories, good or bad, makes my life story. I keep ALL pix, even when I can't stand the person, cause, it's my life story. I don't have to have the pix plastered on the wall, but, I keep them. I hope one day your daughter matures.
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