'My last girlfriend would have helped': Unemployed mooch gets defensive when his 28-year-old girlfriend refuses to pay his half of the rent, she points out that he spent 2 months contributing nothing

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 12, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

The job market may be rough, but this relationship is far worse. 

After two months of being unemployed, this mooching boyfriend realized life was too easy and simple for him to go back to work. Why would he anyway? When his groceries were paid for, his meals prepared, and his laundry was done by his live-in maid, why would you throw all of that convenience away just to clock in at the office again? Except, his "live-in maid" was actually his career-minded girlfriend, who was getting a bit fed up with his laziness… And lack of contribution. 

As adults, it's our responsibility to contribute a little something to the world. Some people start families, others follow their careers, and the travelers float around looking at beautiful things. Either way, it's expected that our romantic partners will follow suit on our desires for life, and while not everyone feels the urge to go work every day, most of us at least have to do SOMETHING to bring in a little extra cheddar. 

So when this woman found out that her boyfriend wasn't even willing to pitch in for their rent next month, she called him out. Lacking the motivation or the good sense to plead his case, he doubled down in the worst way, stirring up the past like he paid the bills. 

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  • AITJ for refusing to pay my boyfriend's share of rent while he's "between jobs"?
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  • My boyfriend (30M) lost his job two months ago. I (28F) was totally supportive, I covered groceries, helped with his résumé, and told him not to stress about finding something right away.
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  • But now he's barely applying anywhere. He sleeps in, plays video games, and when I asked about job updates, he said, "I just need a break."
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  • Our rent is due soon and he said, "You can just cover it this month. I'll pay you back once I'm working." I told him I can't keep floating him indefinitely and that I need him to contribute something.
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  • He got defensive and said, "I thought you were supposed to have my back. My last girlfriend would've helped."
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  • Now he's sulking and calling me "unsupportive." I feel guilty, but I'm starting to feel more like a landlord than a partner. AITJ?
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  • Samantha 38g Ask for her address & drop him off at her place.
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  • Grouchy-Catch-89... You're the jerk if you don't send his ass packing. The moment he said my last girlfriend would've helped you should've said great get out and call her.
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  • Odd_Tea4945. NTJ and this is a HUGE red flag. Besides the economical issue, comparing you with his last girlfriend is not nice at all
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  • If he was making an active effort to find a new job, you wouldn't have any problem, but he's not. Although I don't know why you feel more like a landlord, when in fact your role now is the mother of a brat
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  • Successful_Voice8542. His unemployment compensation should cover his share of the rent. If he's spending it on anything else, kick him to the curb. And change the WiFi password when you leave for work and take the tv remotes. Maybe if he cannot play video games or lounge around watching tv all day he might look for a job. He can use the free WiFi at the local library.
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  • MidwestNightgirl With the comment about the ex as the icing on the cake - I'd be pretty PO'd.
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  • Original-Swordfish69. NTJ. Be firm. The freeloader doesn't start working soon, he's got to be cut out of your life. You're not an ATM or a bank. And the fact that you have been supportive and he threw his ex in your face is a major red flag. You might want to start rethinking a few things in your relationship.
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  • Fun_Ideal_5584 . People really underestimate how hard it is to carry around dead weight. Good luck.
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  • ocean_lei. NTJ but he is "my last GF wouldve helped" yikes, nope. Tell him you need a break to, so you are quitting,
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