Dad refuses to take 14-year-old stepdaughter along to Billie Eilish concert for his 16-year-old daughter's birthday, claims her own dad can take her: ‘She’s always hated me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Oct 20, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

As someone who had a hard time sharing anything with her two sisters, I can't imagine how challenging it is to have to share stuff with stepsiblings. Learning how to share your parents is hard enough, who wants to be forced to share birthday presents as well?

The stepsisters in the story below are currently dealing with this problem, and their parents are not successful in solving the conflict. To celebrate the older daughter's 16th birthday, her (biological) dad bought her tickets to a Billie Eilish concert. Now, her stepsister, his 14-year-old stepdaughter, is demanding to tag along, claiming she deserves to take part in the celebration.

However, up until now, she had shown no interest in her stepsister and has been blaming her stepfather for her parents' divorce. This behavior caused the stepdad to refuse her demand to come to the concert, despite his wife's (her mom's) claims that he should let it go and allow her to join. 

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  • Should the dad give in to the younger sister's demands? Is that the way to bring peace to this household? Keep scrolling to read the full story and share your thoughts in the comments below.

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  • AITAH for not taking my stepdaughter who hates me along with me and my daughter to a Billie eillish concert for my daughter’s birthday?

    So last week way my daughter's 16th birthday, she's the biggest Billie eillish fan out there and so I did some digging and found out that she had a concert in
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  • Miami right on her birthday so I bought us two tickets, we would fly there the day prior and we'd fly back the morning after. It was already
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  • super expensive as it is but it was so worth it because my daughter has been doing great in school and has finally started getting back to her normal self after her
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  • mom unfortunately passed away 6 years ago. My stepdaughter who's 14 tho was super pissed about it, she's also a Billie eillish fan
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  • and she wanted to go but the thing is she's always hated me and always blamed me for her parents breaking up which wasn't true as they were already divorced when I
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  • met her mother, she's always mean to me and she and my daughter never got along and they hated each other, my wife thinks she's being unreasonable here as it was a
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  • birthday gift to my daughter and not just a random thing but she hasn't stopped complaining ever since, I told her her dad was still very much alive and in the picture
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  • and he can take her wherever she wants and that she made it clear I wasn't any type of father figure in her life while I'm my daughter's only living
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  • parent and I told her things aren't gonna always be fair in life and that she has to accept that. She's still mad. Am I the asshole here?
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  • MaryContrary26 NTA. It sounds like a miserable home for both girls. This is not a "blended family", it's 2 girls who have both suffered loss being thrown together and frankly, further destabilized. The very least they each deserve is some sort of separate relationship with their parent. I'm sorry to be so harsh but I know how they feel.
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  • OP PuzzledAd169 She's with her father most of the time he has main custody, she's over with us every other weekend so most of the time it's a very peaceful home
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  • cassowary32 NTA. Why would you marry someone who's kid hates you and bring that chaos into your daughter's life? Don't let your step daughter ruin your daughter's birthday too.
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  • OP PuzzledAd169 Because her mom is a genuinely good woman and I wouldn't let someone like her pass because of a stupid kid being a kid
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  • IMAWNIT NTA. She's 14. She can stay mad
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  • No_Eye_3423 NTA. It's a birthday gift. Also, if you want special things as a kid, don't be a dick to the people that can provide it.
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  • seaclifftonne Nta, it might've ruined your daughters birthday to bring her. I'm glad your wife agrees with the situation, blended families are tricky.
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  • scarves_and_miracles NTA. 14 is old enough to choose whether she wants to have a relationship with you, and it sounds like she doesn't. She doesn't get to temporarily recant that whenever it's convenient.
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  • lady-stardust1966 Nta. No one would pay all that money to have an obnoxious brat who doesn't like you tag along!!
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  • Jamesdungriff NTA. It was your daughter's birthday gift, not a family trip. You've tried to do something special for her the stepdaughter can't expect equal treatment while actively rejecting you as family.
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  • ahaanAH NTA. This was an important lesson for your step in being civil and faking it rather than venting every negative thought she has. She received the consequences of her actions. She might benefit from therapy to help her accept the breaking up of her parents marriage. Lastly, this was your daughter's birthday. Bringing along someone she doesn't get along with would have been torture for everyone.
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  • NTA IllustratorSlow1614 She wouldn't have thanked you for the tickets or the trip, and she wouldn't have appreciated that this was a birthday gift for your daughter. Like you said, she has two living parents and they can figure out her trips without you.
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