Girlfriend betrays boyfriend when she says she wants kids, despite them agreeing not to have any, causing him to break up with her: 'Four years down the drain'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 25, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

At the end of a long relationship, it's easy to have the perspective that it was a waste of time. Of course, there are life lessons to learn there, but it's also your precious time and energy all spent to actually build nothing with someone. As we get older and we have more breakups, it can feel extra tough to realize how many years it's been. The man in the story below feels exactly like that. He's in his late 20s, and has been with his girlfriend for 4 years. They both agreed to not have children, and he even did a procedure to ensure he couldn't get her pregnant. Well, now she's coming to him and telling him that she might want children, which is not a small thing to say after this kind of agreement. 

He of course is livid. It's the main predicator for their breakup, because how can he stay with someone who betrayed him, and how could he feel comfortable now? 

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    AITAH for immediately ending the relationship when she said that she wants a child?

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    Together 4 years. Late 20s. Going in, we both initially agreed to not have kids. I had a v recently. my
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    She recently sat me down and said that she wished I had waited to get a vasectomy because she's been contemplating wanting a child for a few months.
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    This basically led to an argument, mostly me saying that I felt betrayed, we both initially agreed
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    to not have kids, etc. She should have told me the moment she started contemplating it.
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    She said that she's allowed to change her mind, but I said that I don't have to accept it. She said
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    that we can talk in a few days, but I said that she only wants to talk to try to change my mind. Even if
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    she accepted that I didn't want them, she'd resent me. I left before she could say anything else.
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    4 fucking years down the drain. We don't live together (thankfully). I'm sad and mad because I really love her. But,
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    there's no way I'd be comfortable even touching her when she wants a kid and I don't. Why can't
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    people make up their fucking minds in the beginning?
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    What's funny is that this is the second ex to do this to me. The first lasted only 6 months. Stop assuming your partner will change their mind. Jesus.
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    TvManiac5 Look at the silver lining. You've had the procedure now. That means you can
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    lead new relationships by telling them you can't have kids from the getgo.
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    There will be no hope of changing your mind like that.
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    Fickle_Pirate5617 It is ok for people to set their mind to something, and it is also ok for people to change their minds.
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    You both want different things, it happens. Tbh, it's not even that uncommon.
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    The relationship has run its course. Instead of seeing it as 4 years down the drain,
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    thank that person for an amazing 4 years, and look to the future.
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    BlatantEgg4314 ΝΤΑ I know it sucks and I'm sorry. But I invite you to try to let go of the "4 years down the
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    drain" narrative. Feel sad and mad and wallow and grieve as you need, then
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    thank your stars you didn't get married before finding this out.
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    As Dan Savage (who I recommend you read and/or listen to his podcast) says, "every relationship fails. Every single one. Until the one that doesn't."
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