In-laws ruin family Disneyland trip by excluding couple who gifted them the passes, forcing them to drive separately and cover their own expenses: ‘They basically planned our gift trip without including us’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Oct 29, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

Family vacations are supposed to be a bonding experience, but for some, they turn into a logistical game run by secret committees. This one stars a well-meaning couple who gift Disneyland passes to their in-laws, only for the gesture to boomerang when the in-laws opt out and immediately start plotting a new trip with other relatives. When a holiday plan finally includes the couple, it's clear they weren't exactly high on the invite list. The car gets detailed, the tires get rotated, and the calendar gets optimistically marked, but at the last second, the whole family piles into a different vehicle and leaves the couple in charge of their own solitary road trip.

The hands-off approach to togetherness isn't subtle. "No room in the car" hits differently when everyone involved had a seat at the planning table except the couple who paid for the original Disney fantasy. It's the kind of gracious exclusion that doubles as a passive-aggressive thank-you note. Not only do they foot the bill, but they get the pleasure of pretending this was always the plan.

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  • AIO? My family made holiday transportation plans without including my wife and I.

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  • My (37F), mother in law has always talked about wanting to go to Disneyland. My wife (37F), and I thought it'd be a nice to buy her and my father in law passes for Christmas last year but they somehow caught word and didn't want them.
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  • Fast forward to this year and now my brother in law and his girlfriend want to take my mother in law to Disneyland- she happily agrees.
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  • My wife asks about the trip and suddenly we are invited. We begin discussing travel arrangements - fly or drive, etc.
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  • It is decided we are driving and going to take our car because it seats the most.
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  • So we've been getting the car ready for the long drive: oil change, balance/rotate tires, detail the interior.
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  • Come to find out today my in laws, brother in law and girlfriend are all driving there together, in a separate car, without my wife and I.
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  • So we still have to drive ourselves because "there is no room for us" and now get to foot the entire bill ourselves for a trip I feel like they do t want us on.
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  • Never mind today is Saturday, the trip is on Thursday and they probably wouldn't have even told us if we hadn't asked.
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  • I am pissed in all honesty and my wife refuses to understand why. We tried to do something nice for my in laws, then they basically planned our gift trip without including us.
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  • Almost going out of the way to do so. AIO?
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  • dewy 9825 I cannot tell you how relieved I would be to not have to drive with my BIL and other family on a road trip. Take the win, lol.
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  • OP Efficient-System-438 I am at this point! It'll be a far better experience just the two of us. My wife just refuses to see how pointed their decision was. If people show who they are, ya gotta believe them.
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  • Tipsy_Gamer I didn't read the situation that way. Wife and OP offer to take them to Disney and they decline. Then brother and his partner offer to take them and they say yes. That means someone told Wife about the trip. She asked about it. Not "starts asking", OP said ASKS. The former implies nagging and pushing, the latter doesn't. Tbf, I am familiar with the idea that shitty families will prefer one child over others, so this read like they said yes because the preferred child asked, then when
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  • OP Efficient-System-438 Your interpretation is spot on Tipsy Gamer. They told my wife they were planning the trip
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  • Cumisha Jones The reality check is mummy in law loves the son and not the daughter
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  • OP Efficient-System-438 Bingo. I try to open my wife's eyes when things like this happen, but she doesn't want to see it.
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  • HCSRainbowRN Are they homophobic?!
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  • OP Efficient-System-438 Yes, this is very much an issue with my in laws
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  • Trick-Being1539 Is there another reason? I won't go on a long trip in the car with my DIL as she starts power plays if you're in her car and you're stuck with it. I do everything in my power to keep family peace so avoid situations that I think might be a trigger point. Do you and your wife argue in the car? I feel like there's more to the story
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  • OP Efficient-System-438 lol no, my wife and I get along great. Her parents argue A LOT.
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  • lidder444 The issue isn't the trip There's obviously deeper issues because the parents refused to go with the daughter but happily accepted when the son offered. Cancel the trip and let the others go and work out what the real issue is.
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  • lantana98 Why do you even want to join them? You can't wander around and all go on the rides together. Wouldn't you honestly just rather go on your own so you can go where you want and eat where and when you want?
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  • Nadja-19 You and your family go to Disney world.
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  • Happybutt15 Take the hint, don't go and if you care, ask them what the issue is because obviously there is one. If you don't care, then F them all!
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  • In-law relationships have levels of indifference. Some forget birthdays, others plan group holidays with surgical precision just to keep the gift-givers out of frame. When festive generosity ends in a party split across freeways, it’s hard not to wonder how next year’s celebrations will look: probably with new tires, a detailed interior, and a GPS set to somewhere far away from family texting.

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