Sibling backtracks on agreement to split gas cost with brother on family trip after brother “forces” them to wait in the car while he gets fast food: ‘He's not getting that money’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 19, 2025 4:00 PM EST

Being the only one in the group who needs to save money is annoying. Nobody wants to be the one to refuse to go out because they can't afford it, or skip fun group activities because they know they can't spend any money on them.

That being said, you can't expect your friends to give up going out just because you can't join. They are not to blame for your financial situation, and they shouldn't suffer the consequences. The only one who should deal with those is you.

When the sibling in the story below opted out of getting fast food at the end of a fun day at the amusement park with their family, they shouldn't have expected everyone else to do the same. It wasn't their fault they this sibling couldn't spend any money, and they shouldn't have stayed hungry just for their sake.

The sibling, however, thought it was disrespectful that everyone else in the car still went out to get food. As they sat there waiting for their return, they decided they would not pay for the gas expenses as agreed, just because they couldn't afford to eat out with their family.

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  • This sibling was later called out for this behavior, which led them to pay the money they owed. Keep scrolling to read how that came to be…

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  • AITA for refusing to pay my brother gas and parking money after he left me waiting in the car for 30 minutes?

    This situation involves me, my twin brother, my older brother, and my friend (let's call him Dave).
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  • Dave bought discounted tickets to an amusement park from a colleague and invited the three of us to go with him.
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  • My older brother offered to drive and asked if we could split gas and parking costs.
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  • I agreed. The day at the amusement park was great, no issues there. On the way home, my older brother decided he wanted to stop at Burger King.
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  • Important context: I currently have very little money. I'm a full- time student, taking an extra year to finish my studies due to personal reasons, and my student financing hasn't come in yet.
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  • So I need to be really careful with my spending. Fast food just isn't something I want to waste money on right now.
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  • I've mentioned this to my brothers and Dave multiple times. They should know this. I told them I didn't want Burger King and preferred to eat something at home.
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  • When we parked, I asked if they could at least take their food to go so we could get home sooner.
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  • I wasn't starving, but I was hungry and wanted to get home and make something cheap.
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  • My older brother literally just said "No," got out of the car, and walked inside. Dave and my twin just followed him.
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  • I was annoyed, so I stayed in the car. They were gone for 30 minutes while I sat there waiting.
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  • We dropped Dave off afterward and went home. I didn't cause a scene, argue, or mention anything about not paying.
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  • I just quietly decided at that moment that I wasn't going to pay anymore because | felt my brother showed me zero consideration.
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  • A while later, my brother sent me a reminder message saying I still owed him for the gas and parking.
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  • That's when I wrote back explaining why I'm not paying and that he's not getting that money from me.
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  • This caused tension, and my mom got involved, telling me: "You wrote a disrespectful message and I don't agree with how you're acting." Now I'm wondering if I handled this correctly.
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  • What are you guys thoughts? EDIT: Alright guys, I hear you all. I'm either the A le or everyone s ks.
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  • Which means I'm in the wrong for this one (as well). I'll pay what the man is owned.
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  • I think he could've been nicer and not just say no, but that's a talk for another time.
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  • Thanks for letting me see that guys, peace.
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  • DolwantToKnow6417 He drove you to the park as agreed. So now you have to hold up your side of the deal. The fact he stopped for food, and you couldn't buy any yourself, has got nothing to do with the deal. YTA
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  • Perfect-Day-3431 YTA, your brother drove you there and back and you agreed to pay your share of the costs. It is not anyone else's fault if you didn't have enough money to pay for a meal. Pay up, you owe the money.
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  • OneWithTheWild_93 YTA. Stopping for food has nothing to do with going to the amusement park. Your brother still drove you there and paid for parking. Quit being a big baby and pay him. You didn't have to sit in the car. Not to mention, 30 minutes is not that long.
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  • YTA Annual_Version_6250 He didn't leave you in the car. You chose to stay in the car. Stopping for food is normal and you could have gone in and not ordered anything.
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  • WhzPop YTA. He carries out his end of the bargain. Sorry but the "group" wanted to eat and didn't want to drive while eating. You sat out in the car. Your choice. You're acting like a child.
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  • YTA migratory If the driver wants a break they should be able to take one. Especially after a long busy day. Waiting in the car sulking is a pretty childish way to behave and was a poor way to thank your friend for a nice day out. Refusing to pay is not reasonable. The delay cost you nothing.
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  • jdmac87 YTA. The driver decides on stops. If the driver doesn't want to eat and drive at the same time, then you stop for a meal while they eat. If you want things to run on your schedule, then you drive your car or arrange your own transportation. Not an option? Then you have the choice to not go if you don't like being on someone else's schedule. Paying for gas and parking doesn't entitle you to run the show.
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  • SnooSprouts6437 YTA, the majority of the people wanted BK. That's how it rolls when you carpool. If you want to be in charge of what happens, take your own vehicle. You agreed to help pay for gas and parking; you need to pay up. Next time, be prepared and take snacks with especially knowing you don't want to eat out to save money. And you could have gone it and gotten one item off the dollar menu. Just to hold you over.
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