'I pay all the bills': 25-year-old breadwinner puts a ‘Do Not Disturb' sign the door of her home office after repeated intrusions from her distracting, freeloading family members

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  • Stressed professional woman working from her desk at night
  • AITA for putting on a "Do Not Disturb" Sign at my Door? I (25F) work at home for five years and had been supporting my family with my dream job. I
  • pay all the bills consistently and even buy groceries once in a while. I live with my my mom (59F) who's a housewife all her life, and my brother (44M) and SIL who both don't have jobs but does labor work in the house.
  • My job pays well while I'm at home, and I genuinely like and thrive working in a peaceful setting where I'm not interrupted for eight hours a day, so I confined myself inside my room, which also serves as an office.
  • My mother is aware that I dislike being bothered, but occasionally she just barges into my room to talk, gossip, do chores, etc., which is really quite distracting and makes it easy for me to lose focus. (I think I got ADHD, but I'm yet to be diagnosed.)
  • I've recently gotten the idea of making my own "Do Not Disturb" sign after my niece had a birthday party in the house. It was noisy, so after interacting and buying the kids snacks, I've locked myself in my room, put on
  • headphones, and became VERY productive with no disturbance at all. The sign I've made says "do not disturb, please contact me in messenger" to make sure I'm still accessible when needed during work hours.
  • The problem: Earlier today, our electric wiring got fixed, which means I cannot work for a few hours with no lights on so I took a nap. When I woke up, I saw my mom messaged me asking me to
  • reimburse her the money she spent for the wiring. When I came out of the room, I asked her if she needed the money now. She replied "if you please" in a very rude tone, which took me aback.
  • When I returned in my room to resume working now that the lights are back, I can hear her ranting why do I need to lock the door for and that I don't need privacy. I didn't listened further because I am honestly hurt.
  • I have nothing but a good daughter for the family. I pay the bills monthly without any help from the family members, they still went ahead to gossip about me just because I've locked the
  • door while working and getting mad for wanting privacy. AITA? The house is tense right now I'm still in my room atm balancing what I should do. Thank you for listening and please be gentle if I'm in the wrong.
  • Trick_Few NTA There are 3 adults taking advantage of your generosity yet can't be bothered to respect your time. All 3 of them should have jobs to pay their own way in life. It certainly isn't your responsibility to make their lives easy while you work hard.
  • jewdiful NTA X1000 You literally support your whole family. You don't just need quiet to work, you deserve quiet to unwind from being the only one working
  • They either start respecting you or you should think about making some changes. Your mom was being rude and so unfathomably ungrateful
  • abstract_lemons NTA. Seems like it's time to move to your own place. You do deserve privacy. But seriously, you have a house full of people. And you have a mother who's always barged in whenever she feels like it. What did you expect to happen when you suddenly started locking your door and put up a "do not disturb" sign?
  • I'm not attacking you in any way. I agree with you. I also think that you need to understand that your current environment is what it's always been. And expecting it to change in order to accommodate your needs is just never going to happen, whether or not you're paying the bills
  • _way2MuchTimeHere Girl move. They are manipulating you into staying. They don't respect you as a daughter They don't respect you as an adult They don't even respect you as their piggy bank.
  • If they cannot even have some basic manners with the one footing the bill, there is no hope. Just move and don't let your mother guilt you into staying. Her punching herself to make you stay should have motivated you to leave even more.
  • Automatic-Lychee-301 u literally pay the bills AND work in peace and they're mad u... want peace??

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