29-year-old woman cuts off jobless fiancé's access to her bank account after he buys a Tesla with her money, claiming it's a business investment: ‘I fell for it completely’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Dec 8, 2025 9:00 PM EST

Most couples who have been in a long-term, committed relationship know that there are times when one partner will have to financially support the other. The odds that both people will have an income for the entirety of the relationship are slim, but if they truly love each other, they will make it work. Even if it means one pulls the other's weight every once in a while.

That was the mindset of the girlfriend in the story below, who fully believed she should support her boyfriend while he works on his business.

Except, after three years, she is still the only one working, paying for the rent, bills, and his "business endeavors" alone, while he basically does nothing. She might have even let it go on for another three years if it wasn't for his decision to buy a Tesla with her money, which later led her to discover he was driving another woman around in it.

Not only is he driving another woman in the car she paid for, but he also uses her money to do a lot more…

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  • When she confronted him about the three years' worth of lies, he blamed her for being unsuportive. Keep scrolling to read just how supportive these accusations made her be…

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  • AITA for cutting off my fiancé's access to my bank account after finding out his Tesla came with a girlfriend?

    My fiance of four years. just threatened to sue me for the $47,000 he claims | "stole" from him after I cut off his access to my bank account when I found out his Tesla came with a girlfriend.
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  • I'm 29. He's 32. We met right after I finished nursing school and he was working as a barista at this coffee shop near the hospital.
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  • He had this whole thing about how he was "stuck" in a job that didn't fulfill him creatively, how he had all these business ideas but never had the support or resources to pursue them.
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  • He said his parents told him to just get a real job and stop dreaming. I fell for it completely.
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  • I thought I was being supportive. Six months into dating, I picked up extra shifts. Then I started working doubles three or four times a week.
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  • I'm a nurse in the ICU so the pay is decent, but those hours destroy you.
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  • I'd come home at 2am and he'd be on the couch with his laptop, "researching business opportunities." I'd fall into bed and wake up to go do it again.
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  • He told me he needed about $800 a month for "business expenses" while he figured out his path.
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  • Networking events, online courses, software subscriptions, meetings with potential partners. I said okay. I trusted him.
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  • I thought we were building something together. This went on for three years. Three years of me working 60-70 hour weeks while he "explored options." He tried day trading for four months.
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  • Then cryptocurrency. Then he was going to start a consulting business. Then it was going to be a podcast about entrepreneurship.
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  • Nothing ever launched. But the expenses kept coming. "Babe, I need new equipment for content creation." "There's this seminar that could really help me network." "I have to upgrade my software to the professional version." I paid for everything.
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  • Rent, groceries, utilities, his car insurance, his gym membership, his phone bill. Plus the $800 a month in business expenses that somehow kept creeping up to $1200, then $1500.
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  • My friends started asking questions around year two. My sister told me I was being used.
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  • I defended him every time. I said they didn't understand what it was like to have a partner with ambition, someone who wasn't willing to settle for mediocrity.
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  • God, I was so stupid. Four months ago, he told me he was finally ready to launch something real.
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  • He needed a bigger investment though. $15,000 for LLC formation, website development, initial inventory for a product he wanted to sell.
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  • He showed me spreadsheets. Projected profits. A whole business plan. I had been saving for our wedding.
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  • We'd been engaged for a year and I had about $22,000 put away. I gave him the $15.000.
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  • Two weeks later, he drove home in a Tesla Model 3. I was standing in the driveway when he pulled up, and my first thought was that it was beautiful.
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  • My second thought was how the hell did he afford it. He got out grinning, and I asked him what was happening
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  • "I got a great lease deal," he said. "Don't worry, it's only $900 a month." I asked him how he was planning to pay $900 a month when he didn't have income.
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  • He looked annoyed. "That's why I need to get the business off the ground. This is an investment in my image.
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  • People take you seriously when you drive something like this." I asked where the LLC was.
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  • Where the website was. Where the inventory was. He said I was being unsupportive and it took time to build something real.
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  • We fought for two hours. I didn't speak to him for three days. But then he apologized and said he'd show me the business plan was real, and I wanted to believe him so badly that I just let it go.
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  • Last week, I was scrolling Instagram during a break at work and saw a car photo account | follow had posted a Tesla.
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  • Beautiful shot, mountain background, sunset. I almost scrolled past it but something made me zoom in on the reflection in the paint.
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  • It was his Tesla. Same custom plate he'd gotten. Same small dent on the front bumper from when he hit a parking barrier the first week.
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  • My hands started shaking. I went to the account and scrolled back. There were six more photos of the same car over the past three months.
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  • Different locations, different times of day. And in four of them, if you looked carefully at the windows or the paint reflection, you could see a woman in the passenger seat.
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  • Long dark hair. Young, maybe mid- twenties. In one photo her face was partially visible and she was laughing.
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  • I left work early. I told them I was sick, which wasn't even a lie because I thought I was going to throw up in the parking lot.
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  • I went home and he was there on the couch, on his laptop as always. I asked him who she was.
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  • He looked confused. I showed him the photos. I watched his face change. "That's just Emma," he said.
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  • "She's been helping me with the business. I told you about her." He had never mentioned anyone named Emma.
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  • I asked how long this had been going on. "Nothing's going on," he said. "Jesus, you're being paranoid
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  • She's a business consultant I met at one of those networking events. She's been advising me." I asked why a business consultant was posing for photos in his Tesla that he bought with my money.
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  • He said they weren't posing, someone just happened to photograph the car. I asked why he was driving her around in the first place.
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  • He said they were going to meetings. "What meetings?" | asked. "What business? Show me something.
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  • Show me anything real you've built in three years." He got angry then. Told me I was being controlling and that this was exactly why he couldn't succeed, because I was constantly questioning him and putting pressure on him instead of just trusting the process.
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  • I logged into our joint bank account on my phone right there. I showed him the spreadsheet I'd been keeping.
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  • Every deposit I'd made, every expense of his I'd covered, every dollar of "business investment" I'd given him.
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  • $47,000 over three years, not counting the wedding money. "I want to see the LLC paperwork," I said.
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  • "I want to see the website. I want to see receipts for the $15,000 in business expenses from four months ago.
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  • Right now." He said he didn't have to prove anything to me. I removed him from my bank account while standing there.
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  • Changed my passwords. Cancelled the credit card I'd given him for emergencies. He started yelling. Said I was ruining everything, that he was so close to making it work.
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  • I asked again who Emma was. "Fine," he said. "We've been seeing each other. She actually believes in me." I asked how long.
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  • "Eight months." Eight months. I'd been working doubles for eight months while he drove around in a Tesla with another woman.
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  • I told him to get out. He said it was his apartment too. I said his name wasn't on the lease and he hadn't paid rent in three years so he could leave or I'd call the police.
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  • He called me a bitch. Said I was just bitter because I was stuck in a dead-end job and couldn't handle him having ambition.
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  • Said Emma understood him in ways I never did. Then he grabbed his laptop and some clothes and left.
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  • That was five days ago. Yesterday I got a text from a number I didn't recognize.
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  • It was Emma. "He told me you kicked him out over nothing. He's staying with me now but he doesn't have access to any money because you froze him out.
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  • He needs his business funds returned." I didn't respond. An hour later, she sent another message.
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  • "He says you owe him $47,000 for emotional damages and financial abuse. He's going to take you to court if you don't give it back." I blocked the number.
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  • This morning my future mother-in-law called. She'd talked to her son. She said I was being cruel and vindictive, that I should be ashamed of myself for abandoning him when he needed support the most.
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  • She said Emma was a lovely girl who actually appreciated him. I hung up on her.
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  • My sister came over tonight with wine. She didn't say "I told you so" but I know she wanted to.
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  • We looked up Emma on social media. She's 24. Works at a yoga studio. Her Instagram is full of photos of her and my ex, going back seven months.
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  • Beach trips. Fancy restaurants. A weekend in Vegas. All paid for with my money while I was pulling double shifts.
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  • My sister asked what I was going to do. I said I didn't know. She said I should go after him legally for the money.
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  • I said I just wanted him gone and to move on with my life. But now I keep thinking about the Tesla.
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  • About him threatening to sue me. About his mother saying I'm cruel. About three years of 70-hour weeks while he sat on the couch and planned his future with someone else.
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  • My coworkers say I should let it go. That it's not worth the energy. But I gave him three years and $47,000 and he spent it on another woman.
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  • Was I wrong to cut him off like that? Should I have handled it differently?
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