30-year-old mama's boy defends his mom's plan to crash on the floor for 2 months after his baby's born, wife says ‘no way’ and stands her ground: ‘I am fully prepared to move out with my baby!’

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Dec 14, 2025 5:00 PM EST

Well, well, well, if it is another monster-in-law getting in the way of another happy couple. In the case of this husband and wife, it is the husband's mom that is driving them apart. It all started when the in-laws wanted to come visit after their first grandbaby was born. They live across the country, so they wanted to come for a couple of weeks. Though it is a lot of a couple with a newborn to host for that long, they were willing to make it work. It is even more difficult for this couple since they live in a small apartment that would require for their in-laws to crash on the floor of their living room. 

 

The new mother wasn't thrilled about this idea, but was willing to power through it for a couple of weeks. However, the mother-in-law sprung on them that actually, she was going to come for two MONTHS. Not weeks, months. That is over 30 days of someone who is always judging you, giving you unsolicited advice, and pinning your husband against you right there in the middle of your home. So, it's no surprise that the wife said no way! This made the husband's true mama boy's color shine because he defended his mom. Luckily, he didn't marry an easy push over, in fact, she pays over half of the bills and the apartment lease is in her name… 

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  • My husband (30) and I (32) are newlyweds. Shortly after getting married we got pregnant and I just had my son last month.
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  • My husband and his parents immigrated to Canada when he was around 10 years old. His parents live across the country and have been planning to come visit for two weeks in the new year, although they keep changing the dates.
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  • Earlier this week while we were all FaceTiming she announced that they were coming to stay for 2 months, which was a huge surprise as we only ever discussed having her for two weeks.
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  • When they visited over the summer we all talked about their visit post partum and decided they would need to stay elsewhere because we have a two bed one bathroom apartment.
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  • It is very small and my sons room will not fit a bed or mattress, just his crib dressers and toys (he still sleeps in our room in his bassinet but his furniture is all assembled in the nursery).
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  • Because his mom decided (did not ask just told us) to come for two months she assumed she could stay with us as her husband will only be joining the last week of the trip due to work.
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  • My husband and I discussed this and I said that will not work for me, we only have two bedrooms and a very small home, I'm not comfortable with her staying on our living room floor for two weeks let alone two months.
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  • The baby and I get up early and that is his space to play and we have a routine.
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  • My husband would not listen to this, and said if his mom wants to stay here she can.
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  • I was firm that was not going to work for me. Now it's important to say that my husbands brother lives in the apartment complex next to us, literally next door.
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  • He also does not have an extra bedroom for her but a big spacious living room and it would be much easier.
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  • The brother also works away so out of the two months she is here he will be away one month she will have the place to herself.
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  • I asked my husband if she can stay there he said she doesn't want to. She wants to be with the baby 24/7.
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  • We just are not seeing eye to eye on this. I took it upon myself to send a very kind message to his mom that also expressed my boundary.
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  • I let her know we are very excited to learn she will be here for a few months and it will be amazing for our baby to spend so much time with his gramma, and I look forward to doing fun stuff together as a family with the baby every single day.
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  • I then said it would be wonderful if she can stay next door either the brother so she would be nice as close.
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  • I did not explicitly say she cannot stay here but ofcourse it is implied. She called my husband crying and said I'm rude, made her feel unwelcome, and she feels I'm trying to withhold her from her grandson.
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  • This caused an argument between my husband and I as he agreed with her, reiterating that if his mom wants to stay here we will have her.
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  • He told her as much too. I stayed firm that no absolutely not. He also knows this is simply a space thing, I've said many times if we had an extra bedroom I would love to have his mom come visit more and help with the baby.
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  • Although I mean come for two weeks not two months. His solution is that if there is no space for her then he will go stay at his brothers.
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  • Which means his mom and I would have to share a bed.......? I said that is absurd and he said I'm selfish and he is embarassed I would make his mom feel so unwelcome.
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  • I told him we can finish the conversation later because he's at work and I have my hands full with a newborn.
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  • He essentially let me know if I don't apologize and make it right with his mom (ie let her know she can stay with us longterm) him and I will not be on good terms.
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  • I refuse to accept that. His mom is not coming for a few more months and I am fully prepared to move out for the two months she is here (with my baby) if they do not respect my boundary.
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  • I should also mention despite being on maternity leave I pay 40% of the bills and my name is on the lease.
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  • I have not apologized to his mom yet because I don't really know what to say... sorry we don't have an extra bedroom in this high cost of living city on a reduced income because we just had a child?
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  • Perhaps I shouldn't have messaged her, however my husband made it clear she can stay as long as she wants and I needed to set the boundary.
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  • Any advice on how to address this with her (or him) would be appreciated. AITA I declined my MIL staying two months on our living room floor a few months postpartum?
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