24-year-old handles difficult customer, gets upset when 49-year-old coworker accidentally sends her critical text: 'She should have handled that'

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  • a woman sits against a wall looking sadly at her phone
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  • I'm 24 and new at my job. I try so hard. I ask questions, I double check things, I genuinely care.
  • Today I answered a call from a man with c r who was confused and overwhelmed. He kept asking for someone specific, so I checked notes and saw another coworker had helped him last. I parked the call and asked in our group chat who he needed to speak with so he wouldn't get bounced around.
  • Then out of nowhere... A coworker I've gone to for help (she's 49) accidentally texted ME instead of someone else:
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  • "She should have handled that. She doesn't know what she's doing. It's been bad this week." Seeing that shattered me.
  • a row of woman sat at computers and wearing headsets
  • I've been trying SO HARD. I only ask questions because I don't want to ruin someone's already fragile situation.
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  • I went to my boss and completely broke down. Not cute crying — like shaking, sobbing, couldn't breathe crying. For almost an hour. I honestly feel sick thinking about it.
  • My boss was incredibly kind and said my coworker's message was unprofessional and wrong, and that I DID handle the call correctly. But I am absolutely mortified. And hurt. And confused. And anxious about showing my face tomorrow.
  • Then the coworker texted me later asking my favorite color?? Like some weird guilt-apology. I just needed to get this off my chest.
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  • I feel stupid. I feel embarrassed. I feel betrayed. I feel like quitting even though I know that's not rational. I don't know how to walk in tomorrow without wanting to disappear.
  • an office filled with people and desks, the walls lined with windows
  • Dwinxx2000 Lol. This person is over reliant on coworkers. Not at all blaming her. But not ready to launch her own business.
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  • StreetPhilosopher42 This is part of work life. The weird, always kinda awkward part. It really is ok. Sometimes when people have been in a gig for a while, they forget how much they didn't know before they'd spent more than a year doing it. Asking questions is the only right answer to level up over time. Momentary frustration doesn't equal immediate terrible hate. Frustration often comes when the above happens: people forget what good training looks and feels like. You're doing fine. And this wi
  • Thats Mrs Masshole ToU That sucks I'm so sorry. I am betting maybe the coworker is going to get you an apology gift or something which is why they asked your favorite color. If they apologize do NOT let them off the hook with an "it's ok..." as it is NOT ok. Let her know that you appreciate the apology but her text was hurtful and unprofessional, and if she has concerns about your work she should discuss it with you directly. That will show your maturity and your own professionalism.
  • youcancallmebryn Your coworker was in the wrong, know that. But as an internet stranger, I will implore you to remember that if you cry in the boss's office again it will be not seen so kindly lol let boss know about any future unprofessional things like this that might happen for sure. But then take your booty to a private place to fully feel the cry and sob it out without the presence of someone in charge of your income and potential to move up professionally.
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  • Dwinxx2000 Try to remember this: the coworker did not text you directly on purpose. They are venting (unkindly) to a friend. You've probably done something similar? It wasn't meant for you. That's good because your coworkers aren't openly disrespecting you. I imagine if they did not like you the text would've had a different tone. It was just pointing out a specific behavior of yours that they are frustrated by. Unprofessional yes but an accident. And she didn't say anything crazy. Not about you
  • otterstones As someone who has absolutely SOBBED in front of multiple bosses on separate occasions, I promise you, it's not a huge deal. It'll be a little awkward for like a day, and then it'll blow over like it never happened. As for your rude coworker, I think you already know she was out of line & factually incorrect. Some people just don't have an ounce of patience for new staff, and that's 100% their problem. Asking questions is not a sign of weakness or lack of competence, it's a sign that
  • Emotional Vehicle_60 I think your coworker is the one who should be embarrassed showing up. Praying you have a better tomorrow and I'm sorry that happened.
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  • javel1 It sucks. But please don't let this define you. All you can do is work and learn. Right now this feels like she said you aren't good enough. That isn't what she said (even though she's wrong). It was about your work not about you as a person. This is a great lesson that coworkers are not your friends. Mean girl gossip is toxic.
  • scoutmaster02 I'm fairly new to corporate America and my biggest culture shock was just the overall lack of empathy coworkers can have towards each other. It's like a competition, but no one asked to participate in it and everyone loses. It's Especially common from people that work in a very close proximity/work loads are mostly the same as a unit. You would think looking out for each other was a standard but nope! They forgot they were once new too and how just scary it can be to want to make a

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