22-year-old takes back the car she bought at 17-years-old after her dad secretly gives it to her stepbrother as a 'graduation gift': 'You embarrassed him. You gave away something you didn't own.'

An entitled dad decided to not only give something away that was not his, but he also decided to belittle his daughter while doing so. A two-for-one of entitlement! 

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  • A woman in the driver's seat of a car, looking frustrated.
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    A woman in the driver's seat of a car, looking frustrated. 

  • "AITA for taking back the car I bought at 17 after my dad secretly gave it to my stepbrother as a 'graduation gift' and now they say I'm 'destroying the family'?"

    The key was still on my keyring when my dad told me he already gave it away. Not "I was thinking about it." Not "would you consider." He handed my stepbrother the keys to my car, the one I bought with my own money at 17 working double shifts at a
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  • grocery store, and called it a graduation gift. I found out because my stepbrother posted a photo of it on Instagram with the caption "blessed." My car. My 2009 Civic with the cracked passenger mirror I never fixed because I was saving up. My registration. My insurance
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  • payments. My Saturday mornings. When I called my dad, he picked up on the second ring like nothing was wrong. "You knew I was going to do something nice for him," he said.
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  • When it comes to creating a stepfamily, there are certain steps you should and shouldn't take. I am not going to sit here and preach like I know the best steps to take to have a happy stepfamily. However, there are some pretty obvious ones that seem like everyone should know. One being, you do not take expensive items that belong to your biological daughter and give them to your stepson. Apparently, that rule needs to be written down or published somewhere so this dad could have known… 

  • "You didn't ask me." "You have a job now. You can buy another one." That was it. No apology. No. acknowledgment that he took something without asking. Just a redirect to what I'm capable of now, like my labor
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  • at 17 didn't count because I'm more stable at 22. Like the point was ever just transportation. I drove to my stepbrother's place that night. He was washing it in the driveway. My car. He'd already hung one of those little pine tree air
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  • fresheners from the mirror. I told him the car wasn't my dad's to give. He looked genuinely confused. "He said it was fine."
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  • "He didn't own it. I have the title." I showed him on my phone. My name. Purchased. Paid in full. He went quiet. I told him I was taking it back and that he needed to remove his things from the back seat. He called my dad while I was standing
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  • there. My dad told him to "just let it go, she'll calm down." I heard it through the phone. I took the car. I drove it home. I put it in my garage.
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  • Remember in high school when you would work during weekends and after school so you could afford something? Remember how good it felt to achieve that goal on your own?? That was SUCH an epic achievement and life lesson. You truly appreciate yourself, your work ethic, and your purchase. Unfortunately, this dad has never known this feeling. Instead, he gaslights his daughter, trying to convince her that the car she bought at 17 after working extra shifts at a grocery store for several years was meaningless and that she is older and richer now, so she should just give that car away. Well, not give it away, let her father steal it to give away as his own personal gift… LOL Wow, the entitlement with some of these people is absolutely bonkers sometimes, even for online story-standards! 

  • My dad called me eleven times that night. I let it go to voicemail until the twelfth, when he said I was "destroying the family" over a car. I picked up that one.
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  • "I'm not destroying anything," I said. "You took my property without consent. I took it back. That's the whole story." "He already told his friends. You embarrassed him."
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  • "You embarrassed him. You gave away something you didn't own." He hung up. My stepmom texted me two days later saying I was being cruel and that my stepbrother
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  • It isn't easy to protect your boundaries, especially when it comes to dealing with family issues. But this grown daughter finally got it down! No need to waste your energy and mental health on someone who is going to make it about themselves no matter what. Usually, she would've tried to reason with them, but this time, she stated her boundaries and moved on. They can throw a tantrum all they want, but she has grown! 

  • "needed this win" after a hard year. I read it. I didn't respond. My dad stopped calling after day four. My stepbrother has not reached out once.
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  • I transferred the title to a new address. I updated my insurance. I also sent my dad a short, written message that said if anything of mine was touched again without my permission, I would pursue it legally. I wasn't dramatic about it. I just wanted it documented.
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  • He read it. He didn't reply. The car is parked outside my apartment now. Still has the cracked mirror. I keep meaning to fix it.
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  • What I didn't expect was how quiet it would get after I stopped explaining myself. Every time before this, I'd have sent a longer message. Given more context. Apologized for the inconvenience of having boundaries. This time I just
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  • said what was true and let the silence be his answer. I didn't realize how much energy I'd been spending trying to make my own feelings make sense to someone who never planned to listen.
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