33-year-old begrudgingly brings 6-year-old to absent father's Christmas party, where his delusional new spouse claims the daughter as her own: 'Stay away from my daughter!'

All this mother wanted for Christmas was to get out of this family dinner as fast as she could!

After the father of her 6-year-old daughter suddenly came back into the picture after years of being an absent parent, he seemingly was attempting to make amends by inviting this woman and his kid over for an early Christmas dinner. Under any other circumstances, this woman would. have said no. After all, she didn't even consider this man to be her ex, considering there was next to no emotional attachment between them, even from the very beginning. Still, she relented because her daughter wanted to go, and the last thing she desired was to be accused of driving a wedge between her daughter and her father.

So, they went to the dinner, but little did they know, the father's entire "new" family would be in attendance as well. That included his spouse, who as it turns out, was in a grief-stricken state at the time. This meant for an uncomfortable dinner, which was made all the more uncomfortable when it was revealed that the father had an ulterior motive the entire time.

Keep scrolling below for the full story and to find out how the mother reacted when the father's wife started referring to the daughter as hers during the meal.

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  • Clearly, this man does not understand how to deal with anyone's emotions. Not his daughter's, not the mother's, and not even his wife's. She was clearly in a confused mental state given the recent loss she and her husband experienced. For some reason, this guy thought it would be a good idea to invite his 6-year-old to stay with them for an unspecified amount of time in the new year, not to reconnect with his own daughter, but rather to make his wife feel better. Yikes! Thankfully, all of this was revealed prematurely, and the mother made sure she got her daughter out of there before things got even more uncomfortable than they already were.

  • "My daughter's father wants to use her as 'therapy' for his wife"

    I(33F) going to pre-face this by saying my six years old daughter's father (37M), I'm going to call him Jeff, has never been my romantic partner. We
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  • had a one night stand. I don't like people calling him my ex, since it makes it seem we had some kind of emotional attachement. He was never involved after I told him I was pregnant,
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  • For the whole pregnancy and the first four years, Jeff was not in the picture. On my mother's recommendation, I did send him pictures and invited him to special events, but he always
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  • replied he had no interest in my daughter. Two years ago he reappeared and began demanding parental rights. When I didn't do what he wanted, he sued, and was told no, he was not getting parental rights. He
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  • was given the offer to pay child support and then we can revisit giving him actual rights, but he has refused. He has the money, much more than me, but he refuses.
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  • I still offered to let him see my daughter in a casual manner, no child support needed, with the agreement anything legal, medical, or educational will not involve him. He pushed the
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  • boundaries and we had a fallout. After that, we didn't hear from him for almost 6 weeks before he called to meet for Christmas.
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  • After much discussion, I agreed to bring my daughter over on the condition my daughter's godparents could come. Thus we went over for christmas dinner.
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  • And finding out Jeff is married and had never told his family he had a child. It was great to be judged by a bunch of strangers.
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  • It was uncomfortable the whole time. I'm going to use fake names, but let's say my daughter's name is Katie. His wife kept calling my daughter Gabrielle. Not the actual name she used, but it was that different
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  • to my daughter's name. The wife was also very physical, trying to pick up my daughter or parent her. I would block her or tell her to please let me deal with my child. The whole time she pretty much ignore me, but Katie didn't seem nervous so I decided to just bid my time.
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  • I hit my limit when my daughter said she needed the bathroom and this stranger went: "Oh Gaby you need pottie? Let mommy change you."
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  • My daughter hasn't worn diapers in a while now and she's more than capable of going alone to the bathroom. I immediately told her to stay away from my daughter and that we were leaving. The woman starting
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  • ing her wailing that I was kid 'baby girl' and tried to lunge at me. Her in-laws got in the middle and hold her, consoling her and saying that we weren't leaving and for her to calm down like she was the victim.
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  • At that point I just glared at Jeff and told him he better explain or I would be calling the police. He asked me to speak in private in another room and that I could just leave my daughter with his parents. No way that would ever happen. Katie's godparents took her with them despite the wife having a full meltdown.
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  • Jeff and I spoke outside and he explained that he and his wife recently lost a daughter. I'm not going to give specific details on that, all I'll say it was sudden and nobody's fault. And as I can only imagine it had caused some psychological issues to his wife.
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  • Apparently he had the brilliant idea that having Katie pass as their lost child would help his wife. Without telling me. And that's why he wanted visitations and parental rights. He pleaded for me to leave my daughter with him for 'a little bit'. I asked him what was his plan when his wife 'heals'.
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  • His response was disgusting: "Well, I'll just send Katie back with you and it will be just like before."
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  • A family celebrates Christmas together at home, holding hands.
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  • I told him he was insane if he thought I would let him use my daughter like that. What his wife needs is therapy with a professional, not feeding her delusions. And I would not let
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  • that woman within miles from my daughter. He told me I was being cruel and didn't know the pain of losing a child. I agreed with him, but reminded Jeff that my priority is not his family; it's my child.
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  • What he and his family do to work through their grief has nothing to do with us. I also told him to call his lawyer because I am making sure he never has contact with my child.
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  • So that's what I'm bracing for. He's been blasting my phone since Christmas, but I can easily ignore him. My daughter and I are doing a small travel vacation.
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  • This isn't an update, just something I feel needs to be said: My daughter is set for life monetarily. She has a trust and I make really good money in my position. If she was 18 right now, I
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  • could put her through college without a loan. She doesn't need child support for quality of life. If I could get child support and never worry about her father trying something, I would be suing him
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  • in a heartbeat. But after talking to a lawyer and realizing the risk, I've taken the decision that child support, or possible inheritance, is not worth my child's safety. SAFETY is always first.
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