Wife refuses to cook dinner for New Year's Eve after he neglected to help at all with Thanksgiving and Christmas, she gives him an ultimatum: 'This kitchen is now CLOSED!'

This lady's New Year's resolution should be to stop taking her husband's nonsense.

After cooking elaborate meals in their kitchen for the last several holidays, from an over-the-top Thanksgiving meal to a prime rib Christmas dinner, this author was rightfully exhausted by the time New Year's Eve came around. However, for whatever reason, her husband, "Dayton," just assumed that she was ready, willing, and able to do it all over again by herself.

Let this story serve as yet another reminder of what happens when we allow our partners to take more than they are able to give. All this lady asked for after spending hours in the kitchen making their Christmas meal was for Dayton to help out with the cleaning after dinner. Dayton, however, expected his wife to cook and clean, as if a mild display of gratitude was enough to satisfy her obvious frustrations with his lack of effort.

Many of us have been in relationships like this. One act of selfless generosity can accidentally give permission for your partner to expect those same one-sided displays of affection from you all the time. It's obviously not fair. Relationships need to be a two-way street in order for them to work. The various agreements regarding the division of labor made between two partners may look different from couple to couple, but those agreements must be honored.

To that end, there also needs to be room to amend those agreements, as relationships inevitably evolve. For instance, if one person is expected to cook and clean all the time because their partner has a more demanding work schedule, that could easily change if both partners begin to work more or if a situation arises that makes it difficult for one partner to fulfill their end of the arrangement. That flexibility needs to be allowed, and it can manifest itself on the micro and macro levels.
That means this can be as serious as a substantial change in the division of labor on a long-term basis or as minor as one person simply not having the bandwidth to cook on New Year's Eve. If this woman's husband is unable to see why she deserves a night off, then he has some serious reflecting to do if he wants to make this marriage last.
"[Am I wrong] because I won't cook New Year's dinner?"

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