Woman skips her own surprise birthday party after discovering her sister invited her toxic ex-boyfriend: 'Maya is now basically saying that I ruined the whole party'

Plenty of people do not enjoy surprises… especially when they involve their most problematic exes.

It will be very difficult for Maya, the author's sister, to redeem herself after her failed surprise party idea. The author recounted the story of her recent birthday, which she wanted to be a low-key event. After all, she was not someone who enjoyed surprise parties in the slightest. She prefers a small get-together with friends over dinner and a movie.

Maya, on the other hand, loves surprises. She refused to listen to her sister when she was told not to plan anything special. Instead, she decided to throw a big surprise party for the author by inviting her friends, her coworkers, and… wait for it… her problematic ex-boyfriend. Now, this is not one of those situations where enough time had passed, and the two exes have grown accustomed to one another's presence in social situations. The breakup ended poorly, and it had only been two months since their messy split. They had not communicated much, and the author certainly did not want to spend her birthday with him.

For whatever reason, Maya thought this was a good idea. Once one of the author's friends accidentally spilled the beans about the surprise party the day before, the author figured out what was going to happen and who would be there. At that point, she had no desire to attend, and she knew her sister had no plans to rescind the invite to her ex. So, the author decided to skip her surprise party entirely. Now, her relationship with her sister seems to be in jeopardy.

We are in full agreement with several members of this online community that Maya is to blame for all of this. If she refuses to accept responsibility for what she “thought” was a good idea, then the author is well within her rights to cut Maya off for the time being.
Of course, skipping the party entirely might not have been the only solution. The author could have reached out to the rest of the guest list and informed them directly that this was a total mistake. That way, she could have made sure none of her friends and coworkers would end up showing up to a birthday party where the birthday lady was absent.
We are also in agreement that there is something fishy about Maya's relationship with the author's ex. Sure, we do not know for certain that Maya is attracted to this guy or that they are already in cahoots with one another, as one person suggested. Still, the fact that they are in communication with one another only goes to show that something unhealthy and morally questionable to going on here. Maya is not to be trusted!
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"[Am I wrong] for skipping my own surprise birthday party once I found out it wasn’t really for me?"

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