30-year-old Mom cancels 3-year-old son's birthday party, MIL decides to throw him a party anyway: 'She has planned a full-blown birthday party at this point'

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• Oh boy, she really went all in for this nonparty turned party

  
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  You can just tell she thought about inviting a couple people, then added more people, then thought about decorations, then food… It just spiraled out of her control, and now look what she's done!

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• She's overstepping!

  
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• Grandma isn't understanding the nuances of the situation

  
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• When your kids are little, birthday parties are really up to the parent's interpretation. You can throw a massive party with 100 people, or you can take your child to the playground, and either way, they'll have a blast. They're so small, and so new to the world, that it doesn't take much to please them.

  This grandmother has her heart in the right place by trying to give her grandson a nice party, but she is certainly overstepping her son and daughter-in-law's wishes. They have their own reasons for not wanting the party, yet Grandma is trying to foist it on them anyway. 

  The grandmother should compromise here. She's only going to irritate and isolate her family members if she keeps pushing! She could easily just take her grandson out for a special birthday day all by herself, just her and her special little guy. She could take him to a restaurant, a playground, the library, a children's museum, or even plan a play date with a friend. There are truly endless options. If she's smart, she'll do that, instead of antagonizing her own son and DIL. 

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• At this point, the most awkward outcome would be if Grandma had to cancel her party… It'll be interesting to see if she actually does that, or if she still tries to throw the toddler a party. Obviously, his parents aren't going to bring him! 

  At this point, she should make up an excuse on the day of, saying that the kid is feeling ill or something, and just have all her guests over to hang out. Let's hope this person updates us — if her MIL is as wonderful as she claims, hopefully she will be understanding about the situation, and not push the party too hard. 

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