Retired coworker Jeff spots a colleague on medical leave eating dinner and decides to play unpaid HR and tells their managers

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  • Businessman in a suit standing outdoors with a notebook, writing and looking to the side in front of modern office buildings.
  • Retiree still sticking his nose into our business

    I worked in the same office as an older gentleman who just retired at the end of 2025.
  • Let's call him Jeff. Because that's his name. Initially I thought he was a nice man, but I soon learned that he was just a nosy busybody who was constantly in other people's business.
  • Jeff used to be a hot shot salesman, but has basically coasted the last several years, not wanting to actually work but not wanting to retire either.
  • His wife's ongoing health issues finally forced him to retire so he could hep take. care of her- they're both almost 80 so it's not as if it's not an unexpected life change.
  • A few weeks ago my best friend, who also works at the same place, had surgery and is currently on medical leave.
  • Thoughtful businessman in a suit standing outdoors with a notebook and pen, looking ahead while thinking in front of modern office buildings.
  • She finally felt up to leaving the house for a couple of hours, so I picked her up and took her out for dinner.
  • Who do we run into but good, old Jeff. He starts plying us with questions about everyone in the office and my friend lets slip. that she still isn't allowed to drive so I had taken her out to dinner.
  • Of course, he asks what's up and she said she's on medical leave but didn't tell him why.
  • I could've kicked her under the table but I restrained myself lol. The next day she got a call from our manager because Jeff had texted one of the partners questioning why she's on medical leave if she's able to go out for dinner.
  • And then the partner contacted our manager to question this. Jeff - who was NOT our manager and did not have anything to do directly with either of us actually thought it was his place to to question someone's medical leave!
  • He's been retired since rhe end of December and now in March feels it's still his place to be up in our business.
  • Our manager stuck up for my friend and told the partner that the medical leave is legitimate and people are allowed to go to dinner even while on leave.
  • But it still burns me that this ahle man thinks he's within his rights to try to question what we're doing out in public.
  • Andagonism You are lucky so far. I had one retired colleague, who insisted on visiting the office once or twice a month, for about two years. We had a high turn over of staff, so by about 12 months, he knew only one or two people, but he still kept insisting on coming. Im not talking about a one hour visit either, he'd be there all day. The worst thing is, everyone hated him, when he was working there, but he didnt know that.
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply Oh man that sounds awful! Like, dude! You don't have a right to traipse around here anymore!!
  • Kyra Heiker I guess Jeff better hope you don't run into him again.
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply He doesn't like me much anymore because I stopped engaging with him a while ago. At our dinner, he directed his convo mainly to my friend. I think she learned her lesson to stop volunteering information to people who don't need to know her business, especially someone like him who she knows is just plain nosy and thinks he still has some kind of influence anywhere.
  • angelmoth462 nah thats weird behavior fr dude retired but still acting like the hall monitor of the office going to dinner while on medical leave is normal hes the one being nosy
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply Exactly! I couldn't t believe he actually tried to get us in trouble, or jeopardize her documented medical leave.
  • Historical_Grab4685 We had a really annoying coworker that nobody could stand. She moved to a different building & we all rejoiced, until she came back for a visit with her even more annoying daughter. She is still an employee so she can get in our building, but our area is considered a high risk area (we service high dollar accounts). So some one had to let her in. She triggers PTSD for all of us
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply And it made you wonder who is dumb enough to keep letting her in...
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply He was friendly with the partners and was with the company a long time. I'm not surprised he still talks to people there. Just astounded gut he feels he ca question someone's medical status without having any knowledge of their condition.
  • Fantastic-Rabbit-962 The friend should confront Jeff, as it is her battle. If I were her, he would get an earful.
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply I told her later she shouldn't have said anything at all. He annoys us both so why engage with him? He's not friend and he's no longer a coworker. She should've smiled and wished him well in his retirement and gone back to her soup.
  • Imaginary_Escape2887 Take this as a lesson going forward to keep it short and sweet with people you don't know or really like in the future.
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply Basically what I told her afterward. She does tend to share too much then acts annoyed when people know her business. Telling anything to just one or two people in our office is like sending out a compared email. Nothing stays secret.
  • Regular_Boot_3540 I retired at the end of 2025 and I haven't been back at all. I can't believe the partner thought it was worth mentioning to your manager. Doesn't the partner understand how medical leave works, and that it doesn't prevent the person on leave from ever leaving the house? Sheesh.
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply It's a privately owned business. I've found that sometimes these owners think they call all the shots and act like we should just be grateful to be there.
  • Blade_of_Onyx This all sounds completely real. /s
  • AirportPrestigious Original Poster's Reply Unfortunately it is. Jeff was/is a nosy guy who likes to be in everyone else's business. And having worked there for many years he apparently feels it still gives him some kind of clout.
  • Humble_Community_263 some people just can't resist stirring the pot, even when they're not part of the kitchen anymore.

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