Girl sneakily takes refund from phone case that boyfriend of 1 month bought her: 'I don't mind paying, but I just felt like something was off with this whole thing'

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  • The girl I'm seeing took a refund for an item I paid for while I was distracted. Am I overthinking this?

    I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. I cover all the bills, even drop her off and pick her up, and I'm totally fine with it. I really don't expect her to pay, and I'm super comfortable paying for everything. But today, something weird happened. I bought a phone case for her when we were out at this mobile store. After I bought it, the shopkeeper tried to put it on her phone, but it didn't fit, so he said
  • he'd refund me since he didn't have any other cases for her phone. At the same time, something got in my shoe, so I took it off to fix it. The shopkeeper handed me his phone to put in my payment details. Since I was still putting my shoe back on, I said, "Just a sec," but she grabbed the shopkeeper's phone and put in her payment details and took the refund.
  • What do you think about this? It's not a lot of money, just a few bucks for the refund, but honestly, I pay for everything, and I don't mind paying, but I just felt like something was off with this whole thing. Can you give me some thoughts on this? I'm feeling pretty unsettled about it right now.
  • Commenters gave their opinions on this story.

    MckittenMan I hope you have deep pockets... Because this relationship is about to cost you an arm and a leg. You're paying for everything. Driving her around everywhere. Buying her stuff that she can herself. And she is even pocketing your change. You're getting worked hard...
  • You're nothing but an ATM and servant to her. I bet she would lose interest real quick if you stopped paying for everything and quit being her personal uber. You are her sucker.
  • Shogun_Sensei_ Bro thats not cool at all, she literally took your money back for herself
  • helloperoxide It's been a month and you're already paying everything? You're a sugar daddy
  • CUI_IUC When people tell you who they are, believe them. She is telling you that she sees you as her personal bank and any money she can transfer from your possession to hers will be transferred.
  • grow_a_pear Is this real, because I'm pretty sure it's made up? You're not able to "refund" a card you didn't use to purchase something.
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  • DeimosMetus Dump, that's mega disrespectful and you're only teaching her by staying with her that that behaviour is acceptable. You're clearly not okay with it and it isn't in line your values. It would be more respectful to you and for yourself if you chose to pursue someone else who doesn't see you as a cash
  • machine and someone who can love and enjoy your company without money being involved. This doesn't seem the case here. Find someone better, you deserve it. You will be happy with someone else again. This is only temporary
  • MeatSlammur Think about if you were her. Would it ever even cross your mind to do something like that? Would you want to be with someone who would do that to someone who has been taking care of them?
  • frannypanty69 I think that's super tacky and disrespectful on her part.
  • Soft_Alarm7799 Bro she returned YOUR purchase and pocketed the cash while you weren't looking. That's not a yellow flag, that's a whole red banner. One month in and she's already running refund arbitrage on you? Imagine what happens at 6 months.
  • GWPtheTrilogy1 Bro if you want a woman to run your pockets stay in this relationship cause that's what this is gunna be.
  • snowyogi Love a man with a provider mindset! But it sounds like she's using you. You should find a woman who not only appreciates your generous nature but also respects you
  • Responsible_Ca... Make up some lame reason and tell her your account or cards have been blocked and you can't pay the bills. for a month. And tell her to pay it, then just observe her. If she indeed loves your money more than you, there will be a huge fight or some or the other tantrum thrown by her.
  • chillpill_chill That's not okay. What made her think that something she didn't pay for goes back to her? Even though it didn't cost a lot, these little things say a lot about someone's personality. You're not overthinking it because it's just not right. I would have called her out on it but in a nice way.
  • Genybear12 It's been a month. Dump her. This isn't something you'd do to her so why allow her to do it to you?
  • citygirlcoco gold digger. honestly she should be grateful you're even paying for something with no issue... a lot of men complain about that. you should drop her and find someone who will appreciate your effort
  • Exotic-Variation... i grew up with traditional values and disagree with a lot of these comments about the driving and footing dinner bills. HOWEVER, her taking your refund is weird. definitely cut that off.
  • god itdudes literally ask her. communicate. you have to learn how to do this -- like what are ye gonna do when you become more serious with somebody, and have a real problem?

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