16-year-old refuses to donate her chocolate fountain to family friend's wedding after not getting invited: 'If I’m not invited to their wedding, I don’t owe them anything'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Mar 28, 2026 8:00 AM EDT

Everyone has a prized possession that is priceless to them. For this teenager, it was her beloved chocolate fountain.

It's possible that the 16-year-old might have been convinced to agree to donate her fountain as a gift to her family friend's upcoming wedding. However, the fact that she was practically told outright that she would not be allowed to attend the wedding ended the engaged couple's dreams of getting the fountain for free.

Asking a favor of anyone, even a family friend, does not necessarily mean that this person will want something in return. That being said, they will at least expect some level of generosity, even if it's just a kind sentiment. Yet this engaged couple genuinely thought they could convince a literal teenager to take her prized possession away from her, albeit temporarily, without even letting her enjoy the fountain herself.

They likely thought that the 16-year-old's mother would be calling the shots in this situation. Talk about a naive assumption to make when you're dealing with an easily enraged high school student. Anyone who either has a teenager of their own or interacts with them regularly knows that it takes a lot to get them to do something nice out of the goodness of their hearts. Instead, they are wont to ask what's in it for them.

We don't blame teenagers for acting this way. Most of us behaved this way ourselves. However, the most immature folks in this anecdote are the engaged ones, not the 16-year-old. She was just being a teenager, but they were the ones who thought they could get away with getting their dream chocolate fountain while disregarding its owner's wishes.

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    A female teenager looking annoyed after not getting invited to her family friend's wedding.

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  • [Am I wrong] for not wanting a family friend to use my chocolate fountain at there wedding [because] I’m not invited?

    I 16f had my birthday in November my grandfather gifted me a $600 chocolate fountain with delicious expensive chocolate to put inside of it.
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  • The chocolate is way gone, but I still own the chocolate fountain. I do not use it a lot but it is one of my most prize positions.
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  • Some backstory, my sister has celiac d se so she cannot eat gluten so we decided to invite our family friends over so we could have a gluten- free chocolate fountain taste testing without risk of cross contamination.
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  • Warm chocolate from a chocolate fountain on a plate next to colored marshmallows.
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    Warm chocolate from a chocolate fountain on a plate next to colored marshmallows.

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  • The family friend is my mother's best friend we will call her Cherry. Cherry has two daughters.
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  • One of her daughters has a boyfriend who is planning to propose soon. While they were at the house, they were talking about how they're gonna do their wedding.
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  • I wasn't paying much attention, but then I overheard nobody under 21 is allowed to come.
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  • I was a little bummed knowing I would probably still be under 21 by the time they get married, but it's not a big deal until they started talking about my chocolate fountain.
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  • They were telling my mom how much they wanted to have it at their wedding. My mom didn't see a problem with it on the other hand me I am not OK with this.
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  • Maybe this will make me seem like a brat, but if I'm not invited to their wedding, I don't owe them anything.
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  • However, my mom thinks I would be a S y person if I didn't let them borrow it because I've known them my whole life.
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  • But here's the thing I'm not close to any of them. Cherry is my mom's best friend.
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  • Her oldest daughter used to be my babysitter and her youngest daughter is my sister's best friend.
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  • so am I the a e if I don't let her use my chocolate fountain. Update kinda I just talked to my mom and she said she never heard them make the comment about me not being able to come so she understands if I don't want them to use it but my sister still thinks I'm the a e if I don't let them use it Edit I just wanted to clear some things up.
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  • These people have been in our family since before I was born. They aren't engaged yet, but they will be very soon my sister is 19 and they are waiting until she's 21 to have the wedding so that she can drink.
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  • If things go as according to plan, my mother and my father, and my sister will all attend the wedding and me and my 7 yr old brother will not be attending the wedding will probably not happen for another 2 to 3 years, which means I'll be 18-19 I do not expect them to not have their wedding until I'm 21.
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  • Here's hoping that this couple learns something about how to deal with a teenager moving forward. After all, if they have plans to have kids themselves, they might want to pay attention to putting themselves in the young person's shoes for once.

    All they really needed to do was make an exception to their arbitrary age rule and invite the 16-year-old from the get-go. If they had considered this, none of this drama would have even happened.

  • Formal-Clerk1869 NTA.....but, I want info on the chocolate!
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  • No_Entrepreneur_6017 Original Poster's Reply Its called sephra premium milk chocolate
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  • HereComes TheSun000 NTA also, if it's kept gluten free the wedding could risk that. It's a valid reason but also, you've given them your answer. No is a full sentence. You aren't bratty. I'm 40 and I would say no if I wasn't invited or was then invited because they think it will convince me to loan the item
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  • Objective-Pound2185 NTA. It was gifted to you. You get to decide who, if anyone, gets to borrow it. You Mom/Dad/Family don't get a vote here. It's not theirs to lend. Maybe see if there is somewhere you can store it when your family will not have access.
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  • TheVoiceofReason_ish NTA, Never lend things that you care about.
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  • Silver_Adagio138 NTA. It's not a commercial product. They can rent one. No one gets to loan out someone's property.
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  • Groovy YaYa "No, I am keeping it gluten free for sister and I don't want it used out of my supervision because of that and the sentimental value of it." Lock it down.
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  • RestlessLegacy If I were your mom I would not assume my kid's prized possessions were fair game for loaning out. Your mom is TAH.
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