'I hope they fire me': 47-year-old employee makes a mistake at work that leads to serious repercussions, hopes management fires him due to burnout

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  • Businessman in office uses computer
  • Hope I'm getting fired tomorrow.

    I made a huge mistake at work, well actually a tiny mistake that had huge repercussions. It was a careless mistake that I own, but also see it was inevitable. I'm so
  • burned out and have been for so long something had to break. I'm at the point where I hope they fire me.
  • 47, highly specialized, deeply experienced, haven't been unemployed in 20 years. I also have 3 school age kids, a failing marriage, and have been the sole breadwinner for our family for the last 15 years.
  • I've climbed the ladder well, but not because I want to, because my kids need to eat. Haven't taken a vacation longer than a 4 day weekend in a decade. No support because its just me and wife
  • won't get a job outside the house, despite me begging her to for years. Then there is the general state of everything, rising prices, wars, our country tearing itself apart at the seams.
  • I'm tired boss, real tired. Edit: Should have seen that coming. No hate to the work SAHMS do. We made that decision TOGETHER because we felt it was important for the
  • kids to have a stay at home parent, and my income was already significantly more than hers. Our kids are better for it. However, that decision was made 15 years ago when the
  • cost of living was a very different picture. Our kids are now 3rd-9th grade, and require a lot less during the day, while at school. Not NOTHING, but much less than they did when little little.
  • RosieQParker Your mistake is most likely a direct result of the burnout. Burnout is serious. It can disable you, and in some cases you never fully recover. Whatever resources are available to you through work, now's the time to access them.
  • Obone6 Sounds like the story arc to the creation of a dad support network in your area. You could advise young dads on how to navigate the struggles. You sound like a stand up guy.
  • skailkchoodle A mistake at work can usually be repaired or managed. Careers bend more than they break. Especially for someone highly specialized and deeply experienced like you said. People like you don't just disappear from
  • the workforce over one bad incident, even a costly one. That's your fear talking in extremes but that part is real and long overdue.vlf nothing changes except hoping something external forces it, this pressure is going to keep building no matter what happens with your job.
  • Middle aged man sitting on the floor with a cup of tea and cookies
  • Malicteal You sound like you could really benefit from therapy. You'd be surprised how much it can help. Good luck with everything.
  • bachelor4030 Take a break man. Spend some time with your kids
  • snarky_engg_girl You need a break. Your circumstances are tough but you need rest before you figure out how to get out of this hole. Whether or not you get fired, think about atleast taking a sabatical (if possible) or just quitting and pausing for a second. Good luck!
  • whoknowswhenitsin I'm quitting tomorrow! No plan. No nothing!
  • According-Glove-7663 My dad did that too, provided a lot, but he was never there. He was always at corporate. Today I dont see him much. As I kid I really needed someone to get me started in life, someone that ensures goals are set and kept if football or whatever that its kept and worked on, and improved.
  • Why dont you give yourself a break, take a look at the finances and start designing a new life possibly with more time with your kids while you have them. Find a quite space 45min, 3 times a week and start asking those what-if questions.
  • footdragon the only advice I can offer is to talk with your manager and suggest a one or two week time off (vacation) to de-stress and refresh your thoughts.
  • i.e. try not to get fire. as skilled as you are, the market may not be what you think it is. the time off will help you immensely, then hopefully your spouse's issues can be sorted out, but focus on you! good luck
  • D3adlywithap3n If they hear you're relieved about this you're gonna get promoted.

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