Wife leaves dishes in the sink, husband starts to throw away everything she uses: 'If he sees any dish any where in the house unattended, it goes in the trash'

Where do we draw the line between reasonable irritation and harmful behavior?

No matter how much anybody loves their partner, they likely do some stuff that annoys them. A couple who have all the exact same habits, perspectives, and cleanliness levels is a rare thing indeed, and even those types manage to irritate each other now and then.

Nothing brings home the reality of romantic commitment quite like living with somebody and being exposed to the full range of their quirks. It is a true test of a relationship, and how somebody chooses to handle it says almost as much as the person whose behavior they don't like.

The reality is that living with a partner does not eradicate the fact that you still have to think about how to be a considerate roommate. In some ways, it is even more essential than if you live with a bunch of random people. Supposing this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, you need to be mindful of your less appealing habits and how you react to the things that they do that aggravate you. The small stuff can often be what makes or breaks the success of a relationship.

 

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  • A pile of unwashed dishes in a small kitchen sink
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    A pile of unwashed dishes in a small kitchen sink

  • A woman was dealing with a problem at home after her husband told her that if he saw any more unwashed dishes in the kitchen sink, he would throw them in the trash. She had long had a problem with being forgetful and washing dishes right after she used them.

    Not only did he stay true to his word, but he also began to throw out any kitchenware around the house that he found unattended. The woman found this stressful and an unnecessary escalation of the issue. She wanted validation that she had a right to be angry about what she was experiencing.

  • Am I wrong for being upset that my husband throws away dishes I forget to put away?

    I've always struggled with washing dishes right away and sometimes they pile up in the sink. I usually end up washing them, but my husband hates this. A couple of weeks ago he said that
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  • if he ever finds another dish in the sink, he's throwing it away in the garbage. There has not been a single dish in the sink. The rules have since changed to, if he sees any dish any where in the house
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  • A bearded man wearing a vest dries a glass dish with a dish towel
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    A bearded man wearing a vest dries a glass dish with a dish towel

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  • unattended, it goes in the trash. I forgot a water cup on the coffee table the other day that's now at the dump. I used a knife from the $100 knife set to open a
    via _MS22
  • package and forgot it out, it's now gone. Is my anger unreasonable or does this situation indeed feel childish?
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  • A woman smiles as she opens a cardboard box package
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    A woman smiles as she opens a cardboard box package

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  • ottersncrocs Throwing out expensive quality utensils and dishes is crazy work.
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  • Elegant Biscotti4424 NTA. This is not normal behavior from a partner. And if he's willing to go this far just on dishes, then he'll come up with something else once you fully comply (next time it'll be "all your clothes have to fit in these two drawers otherwise I'm throwing them out"/"if you're on your phone for too long I get to delete some of your apps/contacts"/etc. And it'll get worse after that.
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  • Please PLEASE consider reaching out to a loved one and discussing ways to get yourself out of this marriage.
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  • Dangerous-Art-Me ESH. Throwing away usable dishes and knives is an A thing to do. But having lived with (and divorced) a slob myself... I understand the rage that would cause this behavior over time.
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  • Merkkin NTA, that's unhinged controlling sh.
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  • Lost_nova My husband used to be like you and after years of frustration and "I'll stay on top of it" I too got flustered and took similar action without tossing stuff though.
    via Lost_nova
  • I would negotiate with him my method, that worked. When I'd find trash or old gross dishes laying around (trash often right next to the trashcan) more than 2 days I'd put it in a box or bag and in his office. So he could physically see how much he left out rather than me cleaning up behind him every time he used anything.
    via Lost_nova
  • Letting food and cups sit around getting moldy is not only gross, but makes cleaning them take way longer. I just do not understand. ESH
    via Lost_nova
  • ravinred NTA. Sooo many red flags here. If he doesn't like the dishes he could wash them. Run, honey.
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  • cinfrog01 ESH I would like to hear his side. I think there's more to this than you're telling us. The "sometimes they pile up in the sink. I usually end up washing them" tells me there's more going on than you're saying.
    via cinfrog01
  • Historical-Rip1757 What in the world? Why would you be married to this?
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  • Phoenix Rising Today NTA but you definitely married one. Is he incapable of opening the dishwasher? Or actually washing a dish? He has control issues. Good luck with that.
    via PhoenixRisingToday
  • heavy-hands Leaving the dishes in the sink is one thing. I understand how that is frustrating. Throwing away a water cup and silverware because you left them on the counter after opening a package is a major overreaction. NTA.
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