Full-time hospitality employee demands part-time colleague covers shift so she can be with 2-year-old, gets annoyed when she refuses: 'I'm so worried my daughter is alone'

It is the responsibility of the working parent to make sure that they have the right childcare arrangements.

There is no denying that juggling parenthood and work commitments is tough, not least when the planned babysitter falls through. However, millions of parents the world over normally find a way to make it happen. It is just one of those extra responsibilities that working parents have to take on.

Of course, an important part of this is having a workplace and colleagues that are accommodating in the case of parenting struggles. Commitment to the job must be demonstrated, but there has to be some understanding that kids come first. It is the only way to balance these two very different areas of life.

That being said, there is a limit to the amount of sympathy an employee can gain at work by being a parent. Ultimately, their kids and their responsibility, and their coworkers have their own lives to focus on. It isn't fair to constantly expect everybody else to be moving things around for the sake of children that aren't theirs. While it doesn't always feel possible, things need to be planned ahead to minimize any disruption that could happen.

 

 

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  • In this story, a mom who worked full-time in hospitality asked if her part-time colleague could cover her shift as she didn't have childcare for that day. They refused, as they already had plans that had been booked a month in advance.

    This didn't deter her from asking if she could work further shifts during the week for her, which also wasn't possible because of different plans that she had. The issue escalated to her being passive-aggressive towards her part-time coworker and implying that she wouldn't be able to find suitable care for her daughter. They felt guilty and didn't know if they were in the wrong.

  • Full time co-worker (has a 2-year old-daughter) asked if I can take her full shift since she needs to go early to pick up her daughter, but I refused since I have plans

    My co-worker is a full time and had a 2 year old, she asked me 2 weeks ago if I can pick up her shift during long weekend and since im part time and its one of the things that i only hold as a benefit in this company, I refused the offer since I have booked some plans with my husband a month ago. Then
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  • on the day of our shift (I am mid shift) she still asked me if I can go at 2:30 pm instead of 12noon as she is picking her daughter at a friend's house. I was surprised that she still asked me that since I already said No at her text 2 weeks ago. It blew my mind that she didnt strategize this day for her
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  • childcare? (she claims that childcare is closed on long weekend) I annoyingly responded No I told you I have plans right? and kept working through the buffet service at the lounge since i dont want to talk to her. Then she randomly, tells me that oh my daughter is with my husband but he will be dropping
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  • her off to my friend's so i have to go early later. I pretended not to hear and kept washing the dishes but also was feeling guilty for some reason.
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  • Throughout the end of our service, I was cleaning the dishes and the pantry she randomly commented that im so worried my daughter is alone she just got dropped of at my friend's but my friend said she did not cry <insert photo> and I responded oh yeah? and then she said i am going to cry and I
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  • completely ignored and continue working. I dont know why i felt sorry while im cleaning and thinking to be patient and kind --- maybe shes in post partum? or is life hard for them? I felt mixed emotions when I left.
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  • Tassle 15 NTA I'm so confused. Is the kid alone or what? Anways other peoples issues is not your emergencies.
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  • TeenySod ΝΤΑ You have no obligation to apologise or explain for not picking up extra work. Yes, it's a nice thing to do: you had plans.
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  • Even if the plan was 'self-care by sitting in my pyjamas watching Netflix' (uh, for example), that's still a plan.
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  • NEVER apologise, NEVER explain: "Unfortunately I am unable to pick that one up, I have prior commitments." is all that is needed. Do not feel guilty. Your life outside work is just as valid and important as anyone else's, and the old saying of 'her failure
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  • to plan is not your emergency' is absolutely true here.
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  • SueShe19 NTA but I got a little confused at the end. The kid got dropped off at a friend's and the mom was worried the kid was alone? Does this 2 year old just have a key to the place or something?
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  • Broken-Ice-Cube NTA she had childcare. Her friend was minding her kid she just wanted to be off early and was using her kid as the excise
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  • Hot-Garden9206 I would've told her to get out of my face. She was dry begging to see if you were gonna take the bait...please.
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  • SoEnamoured NTA- your coworker is piece of work. Good strategy to ignore rather than say something nasty as she might be perhaps going through some sh
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  • wanderingstorm NTA Your coworker's child or plans are not your responsibility. You told her no. No is a complete sentence.
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  • Imaginary-Power9140 you're not an a h_le for sticking to your plans, tbh. it's her responsibility to figure out childcare, and she shouldn't pressure you to change your schedule. sounds like she needs to plan better, man.
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