Woman spends family beach trip parenting her cousin's kids too, while the cousin and her boyfriend disappear: “They were on a separate couples getaway while everyone else was on a family vacation”

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    Woman in a sun hat shrugs on a beach chair and throwing her phone and tablet in the air beside bold yellow text reading, “I am judging her as a mom.”
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    I (29F) recently went on a beach trip with my husband, our four kids, my older male cousin (42M), his wife and their four kids, plus my other cousin (36F), her boyfriend, and her two sons.
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    I love planning trips, so before we left I even made an itinerary and meal ideas.
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    Everyone wanted to do their own thing, which was totally fine. What wasn't fine was that we barely saw my cousin all week.
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    The first beach day they said they'd come with us, but never did. Instead they stayed in their room while her boyfriend told the boys they weren't allowed to come with us.
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    Woman in a blue swimsuit and sun hat stands by pool loungers, making a puckered expression.
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    The next day they were suddenly allowed to go. That pretty much set the tone for the trip.
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    While everyone else was cooking, cleaning, taking kids to the beach, fishing, and hanging out together, my cousin and her boyfriend were usually in their room or off by themselves.
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    Her boys, however, were almost always with us. We took them to the beach, made sure they ate, included them in everything, and kept an eye on them.
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    I don't mind helping family, but after a few days it felt less like helping and more like everyone else had quietly become responsible for their kids while they enjoyed a couples vacation.
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    The moment that really got me was when she casually asked if I'd taken a nap.
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    I laughed. I have four kids. Not only was I taking care of mine, but I constantly felt like I was helping with everyone else's too.
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    At one point her older son repeatedly picked on my son in the pool. After correcting him several times, I finally stepped in and told him he'd be getting out if it continued because neither of his parents was around.
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    She also slept through one evening while everyone else was together, and another night she and her boyfriend left around midnight to go to the beach while their boys stayed behind with the family.
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    Checkout morning pushed me over the edge. The rest of us spent hours cleaning the Airbnb, doing laundry, packing shared items, taking out trash, and loading vehicles.
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    My cousin came downstairs around 8:30, packed only her own things, and never offered to help with the shared cleanup.
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    Her boyfriend sat outside in the sun until I finally asked if he planned on helping.
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    Then I noticed their SUV was spotless. Mine was full of sand because we'd actually been hauling kids back and forth to the beach all week.
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    I sarcastically said it made sense they didn't have sand in their car since they never really took the boys.
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    After we got home, she texted saying she had an amazing time and thanked us for spending so much time with her boys because they looked so happy in the pictures.
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    Honestly... that bothered me. Of course they had a great time. The rest of us made sure they did.
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    Even my older cousin later said it felt like everyone else was on a family vacation while they were on a separate couples getaway.
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    Now we're talking about another family trip, but I've already decided every family will be responsible for their own kids.
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    I'm also hesitant to invite her over because I don't want to end up supervising her boys again, especially when one repeatedly ignores adults.
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    I don't necessarily think she's a bad person, but I definitely left questioning her parenting after watching this for an entire week.
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    AITAH for judging her as a mom, not wanting to vacation with her again, and not wanting to invite her over because I don't want to end up responsible for her kids?

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