Uncle is prioritizing the state of his chairs over the feeling of his family members by making them sit in different ones according to weight: ‘So this weekend I bought my own sturdy dining chair from home and placed it at the table before dinner.’

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My uncle recently bought a new dining table with these light wooden chairs that he is extremely protective of. The first time we ate there, he quietly moved two of the bigger relatives onto folding chairs because he said the dining chairs had a lower weight limit. It was awkward, but nobody argued. At the next dinner he had already put name cards on every seat. Everyone he considered smaller
A lot of food displayed on a table for people to eat.
was at the table, while three of us were placed on folding chairs along the wall. Mine wasnt even facing the table properly. He said he was only protecting furniture he saved money from Stake for and that people were being too sensitive about a practical issue. So this weekend I brought my own sturdy dining chair from home and placed it at the table before dinner. My uncle got annoyed and said I was making a
spectacle in front of everyone. I told him the name cards and separate row of chairs were already doing that. He asked me to either use the folding chair he provided or leave, so I left and took the food I brought with me. Now some relatives think I embarrassed him in his own home, while others say his seating system was humiliating to begin with. Am I thej ?
HappySummerBreeze Ntj If it was actually about protecting his chairs he would have been happy you brought a chair
Careless-Ability-748 Regardless of the chair, why is he sitting people against the wall? If he doesn't have enough room, he shouldn't have that many people over at once. It looks like you solved the chair problem yourself. He shouldn't have a problem with that.
Zoom ZoomZachAttack NTJ If he is going to be hosting he shouldn't have caught chairs that couldn't handle people who would be guests..
mechshark NTJ your uncle just sounds like a control freak tbh. Why does he care that you use a chair he gives you lol...
Black chair seats displayed in a room.
Chocolate_Bourbon NTJ. Your uncle is out of his mind. A dining table in my house was where we served food to our guests. Seems to be the same thing here. Why buy chairs your guests can't use? That's like intentionally serving food your guests can't eat. You extoll how expensive the food is, and then swat away the hands of some people who reach for it. “You paid for it and don't want it to go to waste." Well, isn't it already going to waste? Why
not sell the "nice" chairs for display and buy functional chairs for seating. Not to mention it's almost the definition of being inhospitable and unwelcoming. Don't invite people into your home if you don't want them there.
Aniso3d NTJ. If he was really being practical, he wouldn't have cared
Opposite-Exam-7435 NTJ and i seriously think someone other than your uncle should host these dinners he's a
Aesma42 As a big guy I would be worried sitting on a folding chair! I will go for the sturdiest looking chair though, without being asked.
GordonFreemansAlive This reminds me of a Thanksgiving event at a relatives house, everyone brought a dish. Host got way too comfortable openly criticizing my fiance. When I called her out she got hostile, said it was her house and I didn't have to attend. I threatened to leave. She said go right ahead. We left and took the food we brought. I think she forgot we brought the turkey. ;) 20+ years later and I'm still a family legend for that.
lego-monkey You are my champion. If a piece of furniture is that precious, keep it in a glass box.
HoneyWyne Hopefully you did wmbarass him in his own home, he's being a terrible host and deserves to be embarrassed. NTJ

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