Woman refuses to pull her weight after 6 years of living at sister's apartment for free, sister demands she leave after finding out all her lies: ‘I'm throwing all her stuff out’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 17, 2026 6:30 PM EDT

Are you willing to lie in order to get something for free? What if you get completely free housing for 6 long years?

In full honesty, we all tell little white lies or bend the truth a bit to get random things for free. Seriously, who here hasn't made a membership account at their favorite coffee shop with a completely made-up birthday, just so they could get a little sweet treat for free without having to wait for their actual birthday in 6 months?

But there is an obvious limit to what you can get for free without it becoming exploitation, especially when it comes to the other side, the one who hands you the freebie after you told your little lie. A multi-million-dollar coffee company won't notice the extra cookie a year you get out of the false membership, but a family or close friend will definitely notice if your lies lead to you fully taking advantage of them, even if they don't know you're lying.

Take these sisters as an example of someone taking a "freebie" way too far. A 21-year-old college student asked to move in with her 26-year-old sister while she's in school, asking to live there for free while she focuses on school and uses the money she saves to pay for her car and student loans. Wanting to help her younger sister, the 26-year-old agreed and welcomed her with open arms.

5 years later, the young sister is still living with the older sister, still contributing nothing, even though she is no longer in school and has a full-time job. Every time the older sister asks her to start pulling her weight and help more, the young sister lashes out and refuses to comply.

The older sister was already close to reaching her boiling point, but when she discovered that her sister lied to her all that time about the car and student loans when their parents revealed that they were paying them all this time, the older sister lost it completely. She has spent half a decade helping a person who had no problem lying to get her way.

Will this be the breaking point to finally kick the sister out?

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  • AITAH for kicking my little sister out of my house because I got sick of her?

    Some background, 6 years ago my sister (21F) asked if she could live with me (26F) because I was close to the college she studied
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  • at and I had a spare bedroom in a 3 bedroom home. She mentioned at the time she wouldn't be able help with the bills.
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  • She worked part time min wage and all her money goes towards her car note. At the time I didn't mind and wanted to help so I welcomed her with open arms.
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  • Fast forward 5 years later, she's now 26, out of college, been working as a nurse for over a year, but still lives with me. Asked her about her future plans
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  • and she tells me she needs a bit more time to get back on her feet as she's apparently "struggling" due to her student and auto loan. I thought that
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  • was strange because she eats out almost everyday, buys crop from amazon all the time, buys coubtless kpop albums and goes to concerts. But you know
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  • what, fine. I'll give her benefit of the doubt. She has a bf (35M) that maybe helps pay for it all.
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  • I suggested she at least help with some bills if she's staying. Maybe pay for the internet as she's always on her computer playing her mmos or
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  • watching kdramas when she's home. I'm not asking for much. I do well on my own. But now that she has a job as a nurse, I want her to at least start pulling her
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  • weight in some shape or form. She can't do that, because again, she can barely afford her student and car loan.
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    Woman lounging on a couch in her sister's apartment.

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  • What really started to set things off was an old cast iron skillet she ruined after she put it in the dishwasher. I was mad and demanded she fix or
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  • replace it. She refused and says I'm overreacting over an honest mistake. It's just a pan. It was little stuff like it that kept piling on. Her leaving the bathrooms a
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  • mess. Leaving the kitchen a mess. She refused to do a single chore except wash her own clothes and fix her bed. Her excuse, she's too tired after working the
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  • graveyard shift. Ok. Fine. I let it go each time because the attitude she gives me is not worth the headache.
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  • Then one day, frustrated after my sister messed up my washing machine (she decided to wash a bunch of her shoes and boots and claims it was already
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  • broken ). I went to my dad to vent and ask for advice on how to navigate the situation. I bring up that my sister's car and student loans during the conversation and my dad Igave me a confused look.
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  • Then he tells me that he and my mom have been paying for those the entire time????? Not only that, I find out from my sister's bf that he doesn't really pay
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  • for her lifestyle either. In fact they take turns footing the bill whenever they go out and that he's been trying to get her to cut back on her spending on Genshin Impact and kpop.
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  • I was infuriated. I confronted my sister about all of it but then she just gives me the same attitude like always and tells me to relax. That I'm blowing it all out of proportion. I tell
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  • her either go live with your bf or start paying me rent if you want to keep living with me. She goes "why do I need to pay you rent when all I do is stay in my
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  • room and sleep. You make a lot of money. It shouldn't be a problem" I was seeing red at that point and yelled at her to get out of my house and
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  • gave her 2 weeks to clean out her bedroom or I'm throwing all her stuff out. My mom and dad heard about it now they are ped at me saying I went overboard. That I should
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  • be nicer and let her stay because she's my little sister. My relatives also found out and I've been painted as the villain. Now here I am unable to sleep because of it. AITAH?
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  • 08/10/26 Update: My sister hasn't come back since I kicked her out. No replies on messages and my calls go straight to voicemail when I try to call her. As
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  • far as I know, she's still staying with her bf and his parents. He came over on the weekend to pick up her things and I gave him the formal notice. I pray I
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  • won't have to do anything beyond that. It makes me a little anxious not hearing a single word from her.
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  • Tried talking to my parents into cutting her off financially but they're still not having it. As for the rest of my family, I'm tired.
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  • I've always been the disappointment despite my successes so idk why I keep wasting my energy trying to please everybody.
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  • I finally went on a blocking spree as recommended by a bunch of you and stepped off social media for a few days to give myself peace of mind.
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  • Anyway I really didn't expect this post to gain this much attention. I was in a really bad headspace that night and needed to get sh off my chest
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  • hoping people tell me I did the right thing before I ended up really losing it. I'm still feeling heartbroken about it all because I really do care about my sister and still want a close relationship with her.
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  • I'm feeling waaay better now nonetheless so thank you everyone so much that's been kind supportive and giving me helpful tips.
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