Teenager ruins aunt's custom sapphire engagement ring, and her mother demands that she get to keep it because stealing it and having to cut it was emotionally hard for her

• Sister things i should give my niece my engagement ring because it got stuck on her finger and she’s “traumatized”.

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• So im going through a divorce and i obviously don’t want to wear my engagement ring anymore, it custom made for me and its truly so beautiful, my ex and i decided we’d save it for my daughter one day, so i have it in my jewelry box. Anyway. My sister was over to picks some things up and she brought her kids, and her daughter (14f) decided to do a little snooping.

• I’m a big jewelry fan and it’s kinda the one thing i treat myself on and i love one of a kind pieces. I do not like people touching my stuff in general but especially something unique and expensive. My niece has always like my jewelry and done that thing kids do where they are like “i wish i had something like that” and give you those eyes hoping you’ll gift it to them. She when it came time to leave and she was hiding her hands in her pockets looking super guilty i knew something was up.

• She was wearing my engagement ring, and it was stuck and her finger was swollen, we had to go and get it cut off. It’s not gonna be a hard fix but i do have to pay to get the band fixed and my sister doesn’t see why she should be the one to pay. She even suggested that if she pays for it her daughter she get to keep it. Huh??? Whaaaaattt?

  Oh and she thinks it’s fine because “it’s not like you wear it anymore” girl goodbye.

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• Also the little thief had a few other pieces in her pockets of course but this one ring just got stuck and she got caught. But i should reward her with my former, sapphire engagement ring apparently.

• And now i remember why i cut my sister off when i got married.

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• The niece didn't ask to borrow the ring, and she certainly didn't receive permission to take it. She went snooping through a private jewelry collection, put several pieces into her pockets, and was caught only because the engagement ring refused to cooperate with the escape plan. By the time everyone noticed her hiding her hands, the ring was stuck, her finger had swollen, and it had to be cut off. An unfortunate consequence, certainly, although “traumatized” is doing quite a lot of work when the trauma began with rummaging through somebody else’s belongings.

• The sister’s response is where the story leaves ordinary family conflict behind and enters a much stranger place. She doesn't want to pay for repairing the band, despite her daughter damaging it while taking it, and she suggests that if she pays for the repair, her daughter should get to keep the ring. That is not how restitution works. Replacing a broken window doesn't entitle someone to move into the house, and repairing jewelry stolen by a child doesn't turn it into a prize.

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• Then comes the absolutely reasonable argument that the owner, who, i remind you is going through a divorce, doesn't wear the ring anymore, as though not wearing an item means surrendering ownership. It’s being kept for her daughter, not abandoned in a public donation bin. And, more importantly, even if she planned to melt it down tomorrow, that would still not make it available for a relative to take.

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• This one’s clear and easy. The sister should pay for the repair, the niece should return every item she took, and nobody should pretend that consequences are cruelty just because the person facing them is fourteen and upset.

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