Dad offers to take son and girlfriend on free Europe vacation, girlfriend protests when he ends up charging them $5000: 'I have barely enough to pay for rent'

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Sep 12, 2026 9:15 AM EDT

You can't take a holiday unless you have the finances for it.

Vacations are great, but the cost of going on one quickly adds up, even for those who are conscious of sticking to a budget. If you want to see the world, you have to dig deep for the price of the flights alone. This means that for most people, going on some kind of trip requires some careful financial planning.

Of course, this isn't the case for anybody who has a generous benefactor who is willing to cover the expense of their travels. It is not uncommon for a family member or partner to cover the cost of a vacation for their loved one, and maybe even their family, too. 

On the surface of it, this looks like a deal that you would be crazy to refuse, but it can come with some hidden strings attached. Sometimes, it may require more financial input than it looks like it will at first. Other times, the price to pay may be more emotional than financial. There are also the fun instances when there are surprises of multiple kinds in store, turning what should be a happy memory into a stressful and regretful one.

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  • A woman was happy that her boyfriend's father offered them a vacation in Europe with most of the expenses paid for. It was a part of the world she had wanted to travel to for some time, but she was also worried, as she knew that the dad had a tendency to be unreliable and controlling.

    Things started to go wrong when the dad suddenly demanded that they pay much more towards the trip than they had been planning, as he had spent a lot of money on concert tickets. This wasn't something they could afford, and the woman resented the control that her father-in-law was exerting over her and her boyfriend.

  • Partner's dad is charging me $5000 for a trip I thought was free

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. For context his dad is very controlling and owns the company my boyfriend works at. He needs to control every aspect of his life and that includes his vacations. I had been wanting to go to Europe for some time and saved up for it. I bought tickets for London two years ago for us but his dad wouldn't let him go.
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  • This summer his dad was planning a Europe trip. He had been discussing it since July and said that I would only have to pay for my flight at the time we looked, flights were only $800. His dad a month later said we probably won't go and he will just have to loose the $2,500 he spent on concert tickets
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  • when he first talked about going he booked concert tickets Amsterdam for his favorite jam band. He said it like it was nothing because as long as I've known him he's thrown away money stupidly. Then a month before the originally date for the Europe trip he comes to my boyfriend and I saying he bought the plane tickets and his going
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  • The price was suddenly not so reasonable.

    to book the hotel rooms. I asked how much the plane ticket was and he said $2,600 which is MUCH more than when my boyfriend and I originally were going to pay for flights.
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  • After the trip two months later he sends my boyfriend a message with a "receipt" for everything I owe for the trip. It comes out to over $5,000. I'm getting my bachelors degree after dropping out when I was 21 and have barely enough to pay for rent and my tuition. His dad knows this. And I would have booked different flights, hotels,
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  • and experiences if I knew I would have had to pay for all of it. I was only told I would be paying for the flight. My boyfriend can't stand up to his dad and I'm over his dad controlling our lives.
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  • Perhaps the couple needed to FAFO.

    thepoet65 NOR - what would happen if you refuse to pay? He locks his son up in a tower and he has to grow his hair long for you to rescue him? Time to get a boyfriend with a spine.
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  • ATC_zero For those saying don't go, OP already went. They wrote "after the trip two months later" they got the "receipt”. NOR and your boyfriend needs to handle this.
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  • Shoesietart You really should rethink dating your boyfriend. I would not want a father-in-law controlling my life.
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  • It was time for the boyfriend to make a career change.

    Flounderkind8267 Your bf needs to find a new job and you both need to create some distance from this guy
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  • JohnnyRelentless He knows you can't pay and wants you to feel indebted to him. You don't owe it to him if that wasn't the deal beforehand. Make sure he knows you don't feel you owe it to him because you don't. -
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  • VirtusMinerva just simply refuse to pay; he spontaneously brought the tickets on his own accord; just insist that you consider it a gift
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  • Perhaps it was time to reevaluate the relationship.

    Melophile_27 No amount of love would make me stay with a man who lacks the balls to stand up to his father and pave a life for himself and me. I would NOT suggest marrying and having children with this man. THIS is what your future looks like. A man controlled by his daddy.
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  • You can be mad all you want, this is a character issue on your boyfriend's part. A man with no voice is a man who will never honor his future family.
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  • EvaSirkowski Don't pay. It's time to take a stand or this is never going to end. Your boyfriend also has to step up. Probably find a new job.
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