Granddaughter inherits more money than the other grandchildren, so his uncle asks her to give up some of her money to her cousins: ‘I told him that it would not be happening’

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María Cetra • Writer
Sep 14, 2026 1:00 PM EDT

It's an inheritance, not the lottery. 


Making plans based on the assumption that you will receive money when a family member passes away is extremely tacky. Firstly, because that money is not yours. It was someone else who decided to leave it to you once they are gone. They are allowed to change their mind, leave it to somebody else, or fully spend it before that day comes. Secondly, this is a family member, a loved one. The fact that someone they love is plotting to do things when they are gone with their assets seems evil. You want that person to live, supposedly, not them to pass away only so you can have their money. Do you even love them, or do you just want their money?

A person is allowed to leave whatever they want to whoever they want. They can pick and choose what they want to leave for who, in their eys, deserves it. In this story, we get a grandma who decided to divide her inheritance as she pleased. She didn't want to leave everything to be divided equally by her grandchildren. She wanted to leave more to some grandchildren than to others. And you know what? She has every right to do so! If you feel like this is unfair in any way, get over it! She had the right to pick and choose as she pleased.

So now we have this big family feud over money that is not only tacky but also so evil. They are fighting for money when somebody they loved, their grandma, has just passed away. Why wouñd yopu do that? Why would you judge what a person decides to do with HER money? It was her money that made her entitled to decide to do whatever she wanted with it. And no one, NO ONE, has a right to be upset over this. It's life. Accept it! And inheritance is a gift, not an expectation. Stop expecting people to give you things that you don't deserve! Do with YOUR money whatever you want, but expect nothing from everyone else's. 

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  • 01
    My (31 F), Gran (90) d d 6 months ago. She had 3 children, 4 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. I'm my Mum's only child and her son has the other 3 and great grandchild. In her will she left everything divided equally to her 3 children, minus set amounts for the grandchildren and great grandchild.
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    A big family all together enjoying nature and playing with a dog. Model image.
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    A big family all together enjoying nature and playing with a dog.

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    She made changes to it about 5 years before her passing. She didn't divulge much, she just told my Mum and I that she saw her solicitor to change her will and did say to me that as her only grandchild who went on to get degrees, she wanted to make sure I wasn't in debt. It turns out that she changed it so that I get the same total amount as the other 4. She also paid for a grad course I did a few years ago after she found out that I had already started. She did help out many other family members
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    My Uncle found a copy of her old will and her new one while sorting some bits out from her house. Turns out that in the old will, myself and his eldest daughter, were getting the same in the old will, and 3x what the boys were getting.
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    Fast forward a bit and it's become a whole thing where without even properly speaking to myself and my Mum about it, we have become the villains in this story. My Uncle and his eldest are fuming, they have been telling the whole family about their dismay. My Uncle's only real attempt to talk about it during a conversation about the house, was to make a comment about how us "girls", should still be getting the same and that I could give a sum of mine to make hers up. I told him that it would not
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    My Gran made her own decisions, was of sound mind until the very end and would be disgusted at the sense of entitlement they're displaying. I have refused to continue talking or caring about it, my Mum is very upset about the situation and being almost blamed but, honestly, I am over it.
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    Last will and testament.

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    WasteGeologist-90210 NTA "I told him that it would not be happening and that I think being angry about what someone else decided to do with their money is petulant." That's it exactly. You've got it. Follow your grandmother's wishes. If they ask, that's your response-this is what Gran wanted. If they make it weird after that, that's their fault.
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    Larcztar NTA This is written in her will.
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    muse_chicken NTA and let's be hinest, had it been the other way around your uncle almost certainly would be singing a different tune. Your Gran knew what she wanted done, respect her wishes and keep far away from the drama.
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    EmmaBotQueen OP Also, what I'm finding weird is that he's not bothered that the boys are getting much less in both wills. I am honestly in such disbelief at way they're acting, that is why I posted here to a wider audience
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    Designer Thought2907 NTA, if grandma wanted cousin to have an inheritance it would be in her will. Follow her will, as that's the only way to honor her wishes. Inheritances turn everyone into AHs
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    Potential-Piano256 Whatever you do, do not give into what your uncle wants. He probably thinks if he makes a big enough stink, you will cave, just to keep the peace. The solicitor has her updated will, you're all set. Just go low contact with the rest of them, tell your mom not to sweat it. Sorry for the loss of your grandma.
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    EmmaBotQueen OP I will never give in. I don't have too much to do with this side of my family, he is a nasty man and always has been. I feel for my Mum because now a few of them aren't talking to her for no reason but I will not engage! Thank you
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    Alternative-Task-348 NTA. You should follow what was notated in the will, as it is a legal document. Let your grandmas wishes be fulfilled regardless of pressure from family members. I work in finance, and this is extremely common. Don't let yourself be bu ed out of something your grandma wanted YOU to have.
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    Purple ToedUnicorn ΝΤΑ It seems gran knew he and and the other kiddos were AH and rewrote her will accordingly.
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    ConfuseableFraggle NTA. The cynical part of my brain is wondering if the uncle is mad he no longer has access to that money. If his kid got it, he could pressure for the kid to "use some for the good of the family", but as long as OP has it his pressure doesn't apply. Of course, as I said, I am quite cynical, so it could just be that he thinks his daughter deserves the original amount rather than the updated. No matter his motive, uncle is out of line throwing a tantrum like that.
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