Daughter starts a family drama after refusing to let her parents move in with her after they gave the money they had saved for her to her brother instead: 'I suggested they speak to my brother, since they had helped him buy his house'

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María Cetra • Writer
Oct 29, 2026 6:00 PM EDT

Maybe don't promise your daughter money for her future if you are going to spend it on her brother in the end. Why are some parents so unfair to one of their children?

It's crazy how some parents act differently depending on whose child they are talking to. It seems as if the cliché phrase they always say about not having a favorite kid is actually a lie, at least for some of them. I'm an only child, so my experience with siblings or families with multiple children is based on what I see and hear, not what I have experienced. I've heard many times stories from my friends telling me how their siblings — usually their brothers — got favored over them. It could be they got the bigger room, or a better phone, or even, like in this case, money that they didn't receive. 

That kind of behavior from parents make me think that they are not very loving to both or all of their children. They just picked the one they liked best and decided to always be better to them than to the others. Doesn't that sound crazy to you? It definitely sounds crazy to me. That's incredibly mean and awful, especially if they are still young. I understand that as people grow older, they start to make their own decisions, which can cause problems and distance in the family. So maybe now your parents have a preferred child just because they see one of them more or have more things in common with them. I would really suggest that they keep that quiet and try not to favor one kid over the other, but I understand that it can happen. But if that has been happening since the kids were young, then the parents are doing something really wrong. Is horrible to teach a child that they won't get the same things as their siblings just because they aren't liked as much. That is full-on bad people behavior. 

In this case, I do think that even though they are both adults, it does seem like the parents are still in the wrong. You can't just promise your daughter you will give her money to start her life and then simply change your mind and give it to her brother instead. That is mean and awful to do to someone you love. If I were the daughter, I would also not let you live with me after that. They can go ask the son who they gave the money to let them live with him. After all, they paid for most of his house; the least he can do is let his parents live with him for a while. And for the daughter, I'm really sad she went through this, but it's a good thing she is an independent woman who doesn't depend on her family's money, unlike her brother, apparently. Let's hope these entitled parents learn the lesson of not favoring one kid over the other; that never ends well. 

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    I (28F) recently bought my first house after years of saving and working extra hours. My family knows how hard I worked for it, especially because I paid for everything myself. Growing up, my parents always told me that they were saving money to help both me and my younger brother (25M) get started in life. I never expected them to pay for my entire future, but I thought they would at least
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    A person buying a new house. Licensed media provided as editorial context.
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    treat us fairly. A few months ago, I found out that they had given almost all their savings to my brother to help him buy a house. Apparently, he had made some bad financial decisions and needed help before losing the opportunity. Nobody discussed it with me, and when I asked why they hadn't told me, my parents said I was already independent and didn't need their help.
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    I was hurt, but I decided not to argue about it. Last week, my parents told me they were having financial problems and wanted to move into my new house temporarily while they got back on their feet. They said family should always help family, especially when parents are involved. I told them they could stay for a few nights in an emergency, but I
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    wasn't comfortable with them moving in indefinitely. I also suggested they speak to my brother, since they had helped him buy his house. My mother started crying and said she couldn't believe I would bring up money when my parents had sacrificed so much to raise me. My father accused me of punishing them for helping my brother when he needed it.
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    Now some relatives are calling me ungrateful and saying that buying a house doesn't mean I should forget the people who raised me. I love my parents, and I don't want them to struggle. But I also feel like my independence is being used as a reason to expect more from me while my brother keeps receiving help.
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    NiaStormsong NTA. They gave your brother money to help him buy a house, it's reasonable that they move in with him.
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    Sufficient Song3387 Nope. They can move in with your brother. Don't let them stay at all. They won't leave. You don't owe your parents for raising you. Don't let them manipulate you. The fact that they are trying shows they don't respect you.
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    janice142 This is a FAFO situation. Because they felt so strongly as to gift Golden child brother the funds, they should absolutely count on staying with him. They paid for that privilege. Do NOT let them into your home. They invested in your brother's life and can now collect from him. Period.
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    SadFlatworm 1436 Brother has a house they helped buy, sounds like that's where they should lay their heads NTA
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    SeaworthinessDue8650 They can stay with your brother whose house they financed. They haven't done anything special for you. Don't let them in because you won't be able to force them to leave.
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    NaturesVivid Pictures Guarantee if they move in with you they're going to start asking you for money to help them and then they're going to turn around and give it to your brother. Your brother should be bending over for them and saying oh Mom Dad please move with me since you help me buy my house. But you know that's not going to happen. Your parents can sell their own place and get a small apartment or figure out what local rate is for rent where you
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    are and tell them fine you can move in but you're paying your rent every month. Then at least this way I will help with your mortgage and food is they're going to expect you to pay for everything anyway. But in reality no I would not let them move in.
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    Mtn Moose307 NTA. They are though. Just another infuriating example of the stalwart kid having to continue to be responsible. They should have saved their money for their situation and life rather than giving it all to Brother. He can take care of them.
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    PrincessBella1 NTA. I wouldn't even let them stay for a few days. Once they get in, they will never move out.
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    Dangerous-Window6398 Your brother just got permanent new roomies. Yay for him
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