Company lays off employee, wants to throw a farewell party for them: 'Genuinely don’t know how to feel or react to this'

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Laid off and company wants to throw a farewell party.

The people who made the decision to lay me off want to throw a farewell party as a way to show how much they appreciate me.... (Their words)
Genuinely don't know how to feel or react to this. I have a good relationship with my colleagues so will say my goodbyes personally. What is throwing me off is how it is being organized by the people who made the decision to lay me off...
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Commenters gave their takes and ideas about this.

holmgangCore Agree to it, then don't show up
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vetratten I was at a company that did this for someone only they made it out to be that the person CHOSE to leave not that they were laid off. We showed up to the party asking "so what's so much better that you're running away?" Because the person was LOYAL to the company for 25 years.
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He just de d-panned looked people in the eye and said "I'm not quitting they fired me, I'm here so I can get my severance" I didn't last long there after that.
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SynonymSpice Are you the only one being "laid off"?
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TheIrishMan1211 Corporate America is weird. When was the advent of this "work is family" and "We Have GrEaT CuLtUrE HeRe" nonsense? I am glad I am able to make a living working for myself because there is just no way
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I could stomach the corporate world in its current state. For the vast majority of us, every job is just a means to an end. Working for some garbage company, hawking some useless product/service nobody really needs, and then having to listen to a bunch of superiors/execs act like that useless product/service is changing the world.
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CincyLog Hype it up. Seem excited. Ditch it. Tell your buddies you will be at the bar
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spargel_gesicht Tell them you'd rather have the money that would go to the party since, you know, you won't have an income and all.
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Chrono_Convoy Tell the coworkers you want to hang out with you're going to Poor Richard's if they wanna join and to hl with the rest of them
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RageWynd Yeah that's a slap in the face... insult to injury. Don't go. All it's going to do is cause hurt feelings.
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But if you decide to go, take a bunch of ziplock bags and plastic containers with you. Start packing all the food up and take it home. If they want to give you sit about the party, tell em that since you're jobless, you need food.
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AlphaxTDR Tangential: I was in a leadership position at a company. One of the workers kept getting passed around from team to team, as no project leader wanted him on their team...because he could NOT do the job.
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The thing was, he was extremely well liked by the entire company. Great guy. Friendly, helpful, funny, and a good friend to everyone. I had no idea that he couldn't do the work when he was assigned to my team, and sure enough he was not able to perform the most basic of tasks without it up. His lead had to constantly go behind him and fix everything.
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I couldn't fathom why anyone wasn't doing something about it, and pushed to get him evaluated for his role. He was given an entry level test and failed. Faced with this info, his department manager was forced to let him go. Here's the tangential part.
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They held a going away party for him, because he was so well-loved. And I was invited. I told him I wasn't going to go because I felt it was disrespectful to him, but that I wanted him to know I truly wished him well and appreciated what a good person he was.
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Any manager that's involved with an employee being let go should NEVER go to a "going away" gathering. It's ride, it's disrespectful, and awkward AF. Leave that to the employees to celebrate and commiserate with their coworker/friend.
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rrrreeeeeeeeee They are trying to save internal morale after letting you go. 'It was a tough decision but we're going to throw a party...' They appreciate the impact you had and are likely trying to calm a storm.
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In this situation your feelings are a priority and you don't owe anyone anything from your now ex-employer. Personally I'd decline and be blunt about it. 'I don't feel comfortable celebrating being laid off. I will not attend.'
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