If your good friend of many years asks you to be in her big fancy wedding, decline. You will end up spending $2,000 on hotel, flight, outfit, trip costs, take a week off from work, trouble shoot problems so that the bride doesn't have to deal with them, get no sleep that week and the morning after you will NOT get a thank you, instead you get a nasty text message about how upset she is that you didn't clean up the bridal suite despite never being given that task. #LFMF