Entitled Wife Fuming Because Her Husband's Ex-Wife Refuses To Get Rid Of His Name

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Feb 16, 2022 9:00 AM EST

A woman posted on the subreddit Am I The A-Hole wanting to know whether her former husband's new wife was unreasonable in requesting that she change her married name. The new wife texted the former wife asked her to revert to her maiden name, "Because we are married now, and I'm his wife. I should be the only one with his last name." The OP wrote that she and her ex, "have not been married for over 12 years. The reason I did not change my name is due to all my professional certifications and licenses. Ex and I agreed when we got divorced that it was too much of a hassle to change everything, and I would keep my last name the same to avoid the stress and headache of having to do that."

Of course, Redditers jumped to her defense and calling out the new wife for being unreasonable, as well as her former husband for indulging the nonsense. See what you think of this ridiculous woman.

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  • 01
    Text - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/namechangethrowaway0 3 months ago 2 AITA for not changing my name? Not the A-hole So this just happened and I'm not sure how I feel. My ex and I divorced 12 years ago. We have two children and share custody. We have a great coparenting relationship and have had zero issues with anything since our divorce. My ex met his now wife five years ago and we get along good as well. She is a good stepmom to my children and she treats them like they are her own. I have
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  • 02
    Text - and she treats them like they are her own. I have remained single by choice because I spend most of my time at work or with my children. I date occasionally but I am not looking for anything serious. My ex and his wife were married two weeks ago and I am very happy for both of them. I think it's great that they finally made it official and that they found happiness with each other. Tonight my exes wife texted me the following:
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  • 03
    Text - Her: So I think now that me and (ex) are married you should change your name. After all there can be only one Mrs. (exes last name). (Smiley emoji) Me: Hi (wife's name). I hope you are both doing well. I'm a little confused as to why I would need to change my name. Her: Because we are married now and I'm his wife. I should be the only one with his last name.
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    Text - Me: Ex and I have not been married for over 12 years. The reason I did not change my name is due to all my professional certifications and licenses. Ex and I agreed when we got divorced that it was too much of a hassle to change everything and I would keep my last name the same to avoid the stress and headache of having to do that. Her: Well that changes now. You WILL change your name immediately.
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  • 05
    Text - I didn't respond to the last text she sent and after about 10 minutes my ex called me and demanded to know why I upset her. I sent him screenshots of the texts and my replies and told him that this entire conversation is ridiculous and immature. He told me that maybe I should just change my name so he doesn't have to deal with the drama. I told him I refuse. I said that again we agreed during the divorce I wouldn't change my name, and even if I wanted to, most of the state offices and cou
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    Text - I told my ex that we haven't been married for 12 years, I have zero romantic feelings for him and that the only reason I have maintained a relationship with him is because of our children. I told him that they are our priority and we need to all get along to raise them as good coparents. I told him that changing my name won't make me any less my kids mother or his ex wife and that unfortunately new wife needs to deal with He told me I was making his life difficult and wishes I would recon
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  • 07
    Text - Update: Thank you all for the overwhelming support. It truly means a lot. I thought maybe I was being unreasonable, but I see now that this is very common. My children and I all have the same last name and that is again a reason I don't want to change it. While our oldest no longer lives at home (he's in the army) my youngest and I make frequent trips overseas to visit him whenever possible. So having the same name on our passports is easier.
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  • 08
    Text - I also looked into the time and cost to do the name change last night. I would have to have a formal court hearing with a judge and have a signed and sealed decree to change it at DMV and social security. The courts here are closed due to obvious reasons and are only hearing emergent matters. So my name change would be delayed. Not to mention the cost of this will be in the thousands and that includes the reprinting of all my degrees and certifications, new office letterheads, business ca
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  • 09
    Text - I think I am going to address this with my ex husband in a few weeks when all parties have had a chance to calm down and reflect a little. I think that there may be some underlying issue at play. And for those who asked, the reason for the divorce was infidelity on his part. I was working two jobs and putting myself through school and he felt ignored. So he decided to cheat and I decided to get rid of 250 pounds of dead weight. (Smiley face)
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  • 10
    Text - go_go_again 4.7k points · 3 months ago I'm a small petty person; I'd do a quick search online for ex's last name and send the results to her and ask if she's gonna contact each of them and ask them to change their names as well since there can only be one mrs. ex's last name , smiley face Also NTA
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  • 11
    Text - DoesPoohShitToo 233 points · 3 months ago "No, I don't think I will. Maybe you and your husband should change your names instead, since you're the ones that care?"
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  • 12
    Text - Icy_Obligation 43 points · 3 months ago OP, I recommend you stop calling it "his" name. It's your name. His name and your name happen to be the same, but it's just as much your name as it is his. He doesn't own it, and neither does the new wife. When I got divorced I was told it was 100% my decision whether or not to change my name back, my ex did not get a say in it whatsoever.
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  • 13
    Text - ofmusesandkings Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] 849 points 3 months ago NTA it's not on you to manage his relationship with her. He's completely misplacing the responsibility for the conflict. SHE'S making his life difficult, you're just the target.
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    Text - goofyghoul111 Asshole Enthusiast [7] 522 points · 3 months ago NTA! His new wife is being problematic. My mother and father divorced around 18 years ago (I'm 21F) and she never changed her last name, specifically because she didn't want to have a different last name than her own children. My father and his new wife have no problem with that, however, she also never changed her last name to his.
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    Text - andylovestokyo Asshole Aficionado [12] 263 points · 3 months ago S NTA, and you never needed his agreement to keep the name in the first place. You can legally call yourself whatever you like. New wife is being ridiculous, because unless I'm missing something you are NOT Mrs. X, you are Ms, Miss, or whatever. In any case, perhaps mention to him that if you were to change your name then you'd also be changing his kids names to match.
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