Drama Breaks Out Between Couple Over Stimulus Check

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Mar 28, 2021 1:00 AM EDT

Those stimmy checks can be a tricky business. A drama broke out between this couple over the newly unemployed boyfriend wanting to go on a near-sighted spending spree with his newfound influx of funds, instead of helping out his partner who is set to be their sole source of income for awhile. The folks in the comments section are in agreement that his approach is just a little bit out of line. 

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    Font - AITA for asking my partner to give me $650 out of his stimulus? Not the A-hole Background: my partner (23M) and I (27M) are arguing over something I feel is very basic. He's getting his stimulus check tomorrow, as am I, and I let him know I expect $650 out of it. $400 is for our bills for the month of March (it's $800 and we split 50/50) and the remaining $250 is from where we bought a computer in January on my card, and he agreed to pay me back for half the cost, since the computer is fo
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    Font - my SO's take on the situation is that he should be able to spend the majority of the stimulus on stuff he wants (a drawing tablet, a fitbit, etc.) he has an amazon cart filled with $740 of stuff. i told him that 1) it's not very smart to spend that much money when he doesn't have a job and 2) he should pay me back the money he owes me before buying a bunch of stuff he doesn't need. he feels that he never gets to spend money on himself and it's not fair i'm asking him to pay me back for th
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    Font - my concern is if he spends over $700 right now, next month i'm going to be didn't bother thinking about the future. so reddit, AITA for lecturing him on how to spend his stimulus and for expecting to be paid back before he blows a bunch of on the bills because he money on wants? 5.1k 651 ↑, Share
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    Font - rogerwil • 19h ·• Partassipant [2] NTA. Debts first, then fun. G Reply 1 1.8k +
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    Handwriting - 1 Award NTA - But this should be a BIG RED FLASHING LIGHT regarding how different you view money and your partner views money and potential problems down the road. G Reply 10.5k •..
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    Font - NTA at all. That money is actually already spent, and can't be spent twice without someone left holding the bag (you). G Reply 1.3k ...
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    Font - NTA: its common decency to settle your debts before spending fun money. It sucks being the only financially responsibke party in your relationship but you need to stick to your guns and tell him if you cant rely on him to cover his half and pay tou back, you wont be lending/ covering his half from here on out. G Reply 1 228 ..
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    Rectangle - GardenStrange · 19h Run far and fast. I married someone like this and hes been wasting money everyday while i comtemplate bankruptcy. G Reply 114 ...
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    Font - ScubaCC • 19h•Colo-rectal Surgeon [36] NTA He's using you. He should be stretching that money as far as possible to burden you as little as possible. Reply 1 25 3 ...
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    Handwriting - Manviln • 19h NTA. It sounds like he needs to grow up a little and learn some responsibilities... If he doesn't have a job he shouldn't be concerned with buying toys and needs to pay his debts/bills above all else. G Reply 20 +
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    Organism - kendrickgrande • 19h · Partassipant [1] NTA, if he agreed to pay you back a certain amount and now has the means to, that should be prioritized over a drawing tablet and a workout accessory. And even if he gives you the money he should still have plenty to have fun with yeah?? $550 isn't chump change. Big NTA G Reply 19 3 ...
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    Font - diorswan • 19h • Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA, but I think you have bigger concerns than whether you're an AH or not. How is this relationship going to work long term? He sounds completely financially irresponsible, and the fact that he isn't concerned about saving anything when he currently has no source of income suggests to me that he's planning to completely rely on you. When his stimulus money is all spent on Amazon, who will be picking up that $400 he's supposed to pay towards the b
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    Rectangle - Wee-bull · 19h 1 Award NTA - stimulus checks are to keep people going during the pandemic and should be used primarily for cost of living. Not for them to buy stuff they want and expect you to fit the bills. G Reply 1 328 ...
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    Product - NTA. Paying back debts before you treat yourself is basic good sense as well as basic good manners. It's even more vital when you don't have a job. Does he owe anyone else money? How is he with debts and obligations in general? G Reply 8 ...
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    Font - RamenNoodles620 · 19h NTA The money should either be saved or used to pay back what he owes. He agreed to pay you back for both things you mentioned. Unless the items he wants to buy are necessary or going to help him get a new job, he should hold back on spending on items that are not actually needed such as a Fitbit. I could understand if he wanted to save the money in case it takes longer than expected to find a new job and pay you back after finding a new job. In his situation, he sho
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    Smile - Konjonashipirate · 19h NTA. I see a big red flag here. He also sounds like a child. If you haven't already, don't have kids with him. G Reply 6 ...
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    Font - newizzie12 · 19h NTA. He should totally pay you back and save the rest, you are not wrong. G Reply ...
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    Font - Chachibald • 18h · Partassipant [1] NTA. Some unsolicited advice? Get out now, and don't waste any more time. That is not how a "partner" behaves. # G Reply 4 5 3 + ...
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    Rectangle - bucku1969 · 18h Nta it sounds like he needs to be put back in the oven cause he isn't done growing up yet. You don't quit a job without a job to go to it's adulting 101 G Reply 1 4 ...
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    Font - OpheliasTragedy • 17h NTA Please update when you break up with him. G Reply ...
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    Organism - sportsphotographer84 · 17h · Partassipant [2] NTA. He's an adult so he should know that he needs to do adult things which mean having to pay bills over buying unnecessary stuff. Stop letting him buy things with your card until he pays you back and realizes that bills come first. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Mkartma61 • 14h NTA. He agreed to pay you back the money for the computer, he should follow through with that and he should not be making frivolous purchases when he's unemployed! O 6 Reply ↑ 3 3 ...
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    Font - tomtomclubthumb · 18h · Partassipant [3] NTA - he needs to pay his existing bills and be ready to pay next month's bills. G Reply 1 2 ...
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    Font - adotfree • 17h NTA he needs to pay what he owes before he spends his stimmy, and since he's not working he needs to save his stimmy for shit he needs and maybe a fancy coffee or some beer G Reply 2 ... +
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    Smile - B-Girl-Ca • 17h • Partassipant [2] NTA but cut your losses, get the money for this month and serve him notice move him out G Reply 4 2 ...
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