Entitled Mom Expects Sister To Watch Her Kids Every Time She Runs To A New Hookup

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Mayarey
Jun 15, 2021 3:00 PM EDT

One of the best parts of having a big family when you start having kids is all of the help and support you can receive. Single mothers could especially benefit from a helping hand every once in a while. It's normal to ask for help but to demand or expect it unconditionally sounds more like entitlement. Everybody has their own life and it is not fair to constantly put people in compromising positions just because you feel overwhelmed.

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    Rectangle - r/AmltheAsshole u/TakeOnMeTakeMeHigh · 1d AITA for refusing to babysit for my sister? Not the A-hole
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    It was Reddit user u/TakeOnMeTakeMeHigh who asked the 'Am I The A-Hole' community if they were in the wrong for saying no to babysitting for her sister. It's important that even our family members understand that 'No' is a full answer.

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    Font - Yesterday, my sister (27F) called me (25F) because she needed me to watch her kids (7M, 5M, & 1.5F) tomorrow (so today). I told her that I already had plans, as I told her before I have a medical appointment. She asked me if I could change my appointment's time to accomodate her... I said no, I waited 3 months for that appointment...! I was angry because it's not the first time she asks me stuff like that, as if her time was more important than mine. That and we don't have the best relati
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    She begins by giving some much-needed context behind the situation. SO her sister is a single mother with 3 children. Clearly, her life is not easy, but it doesn't mean she can take advantage of people in her close-circle whenever she wants.

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    Font - Long story short, she ended up calling me selfish, and that I have no idea what being a parent is like. TBH I wasn't perfect either, because I told her that she should spend more time with her kids. It's true though, she asks me at least once a week to babysit to go see her fling, her friends, a new date... And our mom babysits for her like twice a week. Of course she's happy to see her ONLY grandchildren, as she loves to insist on. When she's not talking about them, she's asking me why I
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    Font - Back to the story: earlier today, someone rang on my door. I kid you not, my sister was there with her children ready to drop off...! I was shocked, how dare she involve the kids in our fight??? She was clearly trying to manipulate me here. So I contained myself the best I could and I said "I'm sorry, but I can't have the kids today. I have an appointment, I told you." And of course that triggered another one of her tantrums. She started yelling at me, saying that she has it hard as a sin
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    Font - And all of it in front of the kids, too. This is what really broke my heart, the baby who was in her arms and the 5-year-old were crying while the 7- year-old was looking on the ground... I had to close my door and lock it, I got scared that she'd jump on me and I was about to call 911 but she left after having made sure everyone knows how much of a bad person I am.
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    Font - Of course I know that the way she reacted is exagerated, but I was thinking that if she reacted so violently, it has to be something very important to her, right? She's raising three kids by herself after all, and she's family... Maybe I should have just agreed the first time she asked? 1.6k 200 ,↑, Share
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    Font - DangerousWithForks • 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] 1 Award NTA Good parents have plans, not escapes. G Reply 1 2.2k ...
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    Font - TheVue221 · 1d Pooperintendant [63] Lord lord. Yeah it's hard being a parent , but it's a choice she made. She decided to have 3 children (where is the dad? Can't he look after the kids?), now she's got to effing deal with it. NTA. Your sister has some nerve. Tell her that if she pulls that shit again or gives you a hard time when you say you can't babysit, that babysitting will be completely off the table. Draw a line in the sand so she controls her behavior. I'm going to assume you're a
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    Font - anchovie_macncheese • 1d Craptain [174] NTA. It's not your responsibility to know "how hard motherhood is", because you're not a mother and her children are not your responsibility. It sounds like you help out when you can, and that's more than enough. Also, she put her kids in the middle of it, made them intentionally experience the discomfort an argument, as a way to manipulate you. You and her children were victims to her behavior, and you might want to consider limiting contact until
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    Font - EvocativeEnigma · 1d Certified Proctologist [22] NTA -.."You're selfish for having any sort of medical thing that requires a visit!" That is INSANE entitlement on your sister's part. It's no wonder you two aren't very close, she expects you to COMPLETELY DROP YOUR LIFE because she doesn't want to care for her own kids. Her .... FLING is more important than family. Makes a hell of a whole lot of sense. She is a HORRIBLE mother if she just expects to be able to abandon her kids with other p
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    Font - LassyWearsAMask • 1d Partassipant [1] NTA. You have to set boundaries. I have a sister like that also. Tries to manipulate me through guilt. I don't feel guilty if I don't want to or can't babysit. Why should you or I cancel anything because of someone else's children? If it was life and death, sure. For a date? Not in a million years. Don't let her determine your value. G Reply 1 27 3 ...
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    Font - Katt_ler · 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] NTA. When she showed up at your door, that would have been a good time to reiterate, "Sis, I made my doctor's appointment 3 months ago. You called me about this yesterday. If you want to start making your babysitting requests 3 months in advance, l'd likely be able to better able to accommodate you." Hindsight is 20/20, though. I'd suggest telling her that from now on, unless it is A REAL EMERGENCY, she needs to give you 1-2 weeks lead time on babysi
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    Font - Jon_Jraper · 1d Partassipant [1] NTA. You had nothing to do with her choice to be a mother, or whatever resulted in her being a single mother, she has other options, and this wasn't an emergency. G Reply 1 20 3 ...
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    Rectangle - ro AmandaJay8 · 1d NTA people like that shouldn't even have 1 kid let alone 3 G Reply 1 50 ...
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    Font - Affectionate-Area659 · 1d Partassipant [2] NTA. "No, I have an appointment." Should have been the end of it. Just no should have ended it. You aren't obligated to put your life on hold for her. She is the one who decided to have kids. She is the one responsible for caring for her kids. You don't have to have a reason to not watch them. They aren't your responsibility. She has no right to show up at your door unannounced with her children much less after you've already told her no. She is
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    Font - Yogafunkgirl · 1d Partassipant [2] 1 Award NTA - you didn't have kids, she did. They are not your responsibility and you are entitled to have plans that prioritize your needs over hers. And while she went way too far showing up unannounced, shutting the door in her face was kinda rude (even if necessary). I had fights like this with my sister in our twenties. She had two kids, I had none, and I all heard was how selfish I was and how I was just "all about me". Until I asked "who is my lif
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    Font - JPowellRecession2020 · 1d NTA, if it's not an emergency for her she should've given more notice G Reply 4 11 3
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