Man Discovers Ex-Girlfriend Hid The Existence Of His Daughter For 25 Years

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Dec 27, 2021 12:00 PM EST

This Father's Day, a Reddit man discovered he had a 25-year-old daughter that an ex hid from him all these years. The catch? The mother only told the daughter his full name because she was dying. Talk about a modern-day soap opera! Once the girl discovered that her deceased mother never told her father that he had a daughter, she continuously referred to her as "that lying b*tch." Because this thread is featured on Reddit's infamous "Am I The A$$hole?" subreddit, the man wants to know if he was in the wrong for telling the daughter that he never knew about her existence because it tainted his daughter's memories of her mother. Scroll down for more context into this very dramatic story. 

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    Font - * r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/Ok_Product_6304 14 hours ago 27 26 3 9 AITA for telling my adult daughter the truth about why I wasn't in her life? Throw-Away for very obvious reasons. Recently, I got back in contact with my adult daughter M,
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    Font - after having had nothing to do with her since her birth. She's 25 now, but honestly I wasn't around from her birth all the way through to when her mother died a couple years ago. Now, I know I'm not a perfect person here, I've done some bad things, but in this case I don't think I was the bad guy. M's mother and I dated for about a year after I graduated high school in 95, while I was just in college. I'll be honest, her mother was a 'rebound' girl. Never thought it would be a long term r
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    Font - We became close, and did couple things, but I always made certain to use protection. I didn't want kids at that stage in my life, and thought I'd made it clear to M's mother. After coming back from family vacation one summer, I'm surprised to find that her (GF) apartment is empty, and she's dropped off the face of the earth. Poof. Gone.
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    Font - Over the past years, I often wondered what happened, but any attempts at searching for M's mother failed.
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    Font - A couple months ago I got a visitor out of the blue, and after some awkward moments, M introduced herself as my daughter. She wanted to know her dad, but at the same time I felt this hostility there. She was angry (rightly so) at me for not being in her life, and I got the impression this was a "well I can say I met the bastard" type of thing. She told me how
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    Product - her mother had died a couple years prior, only after finally telling her my full name and to go looking for me. It'd taken her that long to finally track me down. She wanted to know everything I'd been doing to that point, while I still found it hard to believe.
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    Font - Eventually she asked why I had never been in her life, and I told her "Two reasons. One, I didn't know you existed, and two, your mom completely vanished on me." She didn't believe this, and scoffed, but telling her my own story about what happened seemed to mesh up with some things her own mom had told her. This has created a problem. M practically hates her mother for what she did. She accepts
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    Font - that I didn't even know she existed, and couldn't find her, so she can't fault me for that. However she worshiped her mom, and now she's finding out that not only did her mom lie to her about the reason I wasn't around, but now she even questions about her own birth, was it some stunt by her mother to force me to stay around? We talk from time to time, but her mom has gone from being respected, to "That lying bitch" among other things.
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    Font - I genuinely feel bad about this, and wonder if I was the asshole for telling the truth and destroying whatever memories M had about her mother. So, AITA?
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    Rectangle - cara180455· 13h Asshole Enthusiast [8] NTA. She deserved the truth. But I don't know why she thinks her mom got pregnant to keep you around if she ghosted you like that without ever telling you.
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    Font - Mera1506 · 6h Professor Emeritass [80] NTA. I'd consider doing a paternity test. Right now all you both got is the word of a woman who kept OP in the dark and lied to her kid about why she had no dad. We also don't know if OP was the only guy she was sleeping with at the time.
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    Font - Naa2016 · 13h Certified Proctologist [20] NTA. (Dead mom is). This poor girl needs some truth in her life. It seems like right now, she is justifiably angry with her mom, but I don't think it will last forever. Her mother is deceased, which means ultimately no harm is coming to her for your honesty. This is a no-win situation, because either she's mad at you or she's mad at her mom. She already has good memories of her mom to fall back on, while you have no such thing. This way, she can h
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