Man Accuses Girlfriend Of Being Manipulative And Materialistic For Buying Him Birthday Gifts

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Jul 29, 2021 5:00 PM EDT

Relationships are messy and complicated, but we hope we can expect logic from our significant other, at the very least. In today's "Am I The A$$hole?" thread, OP is confused that her boyfriend is upset at her after she bought him birthday presents. He claims that she only bought him gifts so that he would repay the favor on her birthday. We hoped he would have wanted to buy her a gift as her boyfriend, but clearly, we thought wrong. Redditors think there must be an underlying personal issue for the boyfriend that we're unaware of, but what do guys think of this weird situation? Let us know in the comments. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/Pizzarating 8 hours ago 27 e12 3 13 39 AITA for buying my boyfriend birthday gifts? I am confused and upset My boyfriend turned 21 last week and I bought him a new video game he had been wanting and a t-shirt.
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    Font - He started ignoring me and leaving me on read after that. I asked him what was wrong and he finally said it was unfair that I got him birthday presents because now he's going to have to get me something for my birthday and that I am being manipulative.
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    Font - I told him no you don't have to get me anything for my birthday but I'd like to spend some time with you that day but he said that it was a "dick move" that I got him gifts. He says I was trying to make him feel obligated. I told him it is the thought that counts and that he doesn't have to get me anything but that if he does, I'd be happy with just a card but he keeps saying he is unsure he can deal with a materialistic girlfriend.
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    Font - Was it wrong that I got him gifts? I can't understand any more.
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    Font - zipperoff · 8h Partassipant [4] Run
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    Font - Indigoh · 6h Partassipant [2] Looks to me like he's received abuse in his past, to think that buying gifts is always manipulative.. I wouldn't be surprised if he's dealt with a lot of people, or family, who use gifts that way.
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    Font - Indigoh · 5h Partassipant [2] My guess is he may have narcissistic parents, who never in his life bought him a gift without strings attached. I'm saying NAH because I doubt it's his fault, and I really hope he finds a better perspective.
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    Font - Daffodils28 · 6h PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP
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    Human body - ILikeTacosInMyColon · 5h I usually think a lot of AITA folks talking about divorce, running and red flags are exaggerating but JESUS CHRIST, girl, just run and don't look back.
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    Font - unwise_watson · 8h NTA. Dump him. This is disgusting behavior in his half. He is gaslighting you and he's actually the one being manipulative. He's turned your kind gesture into you feeling insecure, confused, and like you've done something horribly wrong. You deserve better.
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