Man Fuming When Sister Won't Incorporate His Step-Kids Into Her Wedding

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    Font - Posted by u/weddingaita86 1 day ago AITA for not wanting my brother's stepkids in my wedding? Not the A-hole
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    Font - My Fiancee and I are getting married in November and after delays due last year, are finally getting to the nitty gritty details of planning. Within the last year my older brother "Pete" has gotten married to a woman with 2 kids, 6F and 8M.
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    Font - I met them a couple times, Im not exactly a kid person but they seem pretty normal so thats good I guess.
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    Font - This sunday my family had brunch at my parents house and Pete came with his wife and stepkids. He was asking me about my wedding and how planning was going and then asked if we had plans for the Flower Girl and Ring Bearer.
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    Font - I told him that we weren't having a flower girl but we've been training our German shepard mix Bubba to calmly walk down an "aisle" we set up to have him play a fake ring bearer role (Actual rings will be kept by Best man to be safe but guests wont realize that).
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    Font - Bubba is a service dog dropout so while he wasnt up to par for those standards he's still better trained than 90% of dogs.
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    Font - Pete asked if his stepson could walk the dog down the aisle and stepdaughter be the flower girl. I told him I hadnt thought about that but we'll see. Well yesterday he calls me and asked if Ive given it any thought and I told him I actually just want to stick to my original plan.
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    Font - My Fiancee and I have been excited for our plan and to be totally honest, we just dont really want kids to have a part in our wedding.
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    Font - We're not going totally kid free since a couple of our friends who need to travel will be there and we realized it wasnt realistic to expect them to come without their kids, so they will be guests but not in the wedding.
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    Font - Pete got really mad at me, accused me of not accepting his new family into the larger family..
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    Font - family. Apparently his wife doesnt feel accepted by my parents and now us, I guess my sister made a comment about her infant son being the "only grandchild" so far and that really rubbed them the wrong way... Im staying out of that whole thing.
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    Font - Pete texted me again this morning and honestly Im just getting annoyed at him and told him basically if he wanted to showcase his new family he shouldve waited to have a traditional wedding, not tried to force them into mine.
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    Font - I feel like that might have been to harsh now and Im feeling a little guilty...
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    Font - Edits: Forgot to mention Pete had a small courthouse wedding in the last year, so no large wedding.
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    Font - My Sister's comment was offhand and not meant to be a dig at my brother's wife or her kids. When she realized how it was perceived she apologized, but everyone knew what she meant. Nobody has been mean to the kids.
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    Font - I could be the asshole becuase there's no other kids that his stepkids would be replacing, Id just rather not have kids in general which could be kind of petty
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    Font - MiskiMoon · 1d Asshole Aficionado [15] NTA He is overstepping big time. This is your wedding, don't let him try and guilt trip you into changes Keep it childfree to enjoy your day
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    Font - mathematicunt · 1d Partassipant [1] NTA!!! It's YOUR wedding first of all, you can do whatever the hell you want. You are not obligated to include anyone in your wedding that you don't want to. It's selfish of your brother to do that to you.
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    Font - lihzee · 1d Professor Emeritass [72] | NTA. I never understand family members who feel that they can dictate someone else's wedding. You and your fianceé have a plan, your brother needs to get over it. It's sad that his wife feels that your parents aren't accepting of her and her kids, but that is not for you to fix. 1 562 Reply Share

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