The Seven Reasons People Ghost

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Sep 27, 2021 7:00 PM EDT

Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is when a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they're dating, with zero warning or notice. 

Sure, people typically ghost because they are simply 'not that into you,' but it goes deeper than that. Why must they disappear without a trace? if they weren't feeling the chemistry couldn't they just let me know? These are all questions that come to mind when someone is ghosted. We teamed up with dating blog The Single Society to share the 7 deeper meanings to why people ghost based on a study conducted by PsychCentral. If you have a story about being ghosted on the dating scene please be sure to share it here. You are not alone! You'll probably be able to see from this list that there is much much worse out there. It's amazing that any of us have the energy to go out and seek relationships anymore.

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  • 01
    Font - Fear of Hurting Your Feelings "Common reasons people ghost each other are not feeling a chemistry or connection and not being able to communicate that due to fear of hurting the person's feelings," says Hannah Tishman, a licensed clinical social worker in New York City, New York.
    via The Single Society
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    Font - Low Emotional Intelligence Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the wisdom to apply different emotional responses in nuanced situations using empathy. Those with low EQ may have a hard time understanding how their actions hurt you. But at the end of the day, they just weren't feeling the chemistry and that is OK because there are plenty of people out there who will.
    via The Single Society
  • 03
    Font - Low Self-Esteem If someone doesn't believe they deserve someone like you, they may self-sabotage.
    via The Single Society
  • 04
    Font - Insecure Attachment Style If your love interest has a fearful-avoidant attachment style, they may oscillate between wanting intimacy and avoiding it when you start to get too close. "The avoidant attachment style tends to go into 'turtle mode' and enter their shellI, which can be manifested as ghosting behavior," Lawrenz says. "This can be a protective means of guarding their heart."
    via The Single Society
  • 05
    Font - Overwhelm Someone who experiences anxiety may worry about the outcome of the relationship and cut it off without warning because that feels safer.
    via The Single Society
  • 06
    Font - Emotional unavailability due to a mental health condition Those who live with depression may feel like they lack the energy to maintain connections. They may self-isolate and avoid contact with others, causing them to cut off the relationship abruptly.
    via The Single Society
  • 07
    Font - Convenience of Technology With so much digital access to people right at our fingertips it can be easy to forget that these are people with feelings on the other end. Now that our devices have essentially become 'shields,' we are completely desensitized to the point where we treat dating the same way we treat shopping for cereal at the grocery store. If you don't like it, you simply put it back and move onto the next. Dating apps have completely dehumanized the dating experience.
    via The Single Society

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