Fiancé Refuses To Have Giant Family Of Ungrateful In-Laws Over For Thanksgiving

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/FinalBlackberry 10 hours ago A 2 21 e23 3 33 AITA for refusing to host Thanksgiving for 20+ people for the 4th year in a row?
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    Font - So my fiancé has a rather large family. Parents, two brothers with significant others, numerous adult nieces and nephews and their partners and there's usually always some distant aunt, uncle or cousin that tags along. I have two family
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    Font - members that join Holidays. This year neither will be able to attend. Last year one was present. So for the past four years I've been single handedly cooking from scratch and hosting for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. So essentially I've been cooking dinner for 20
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    Font - people or so while my partner babysits a brisket in the smoker. There's a lot of logistics behind cooking for a large crowd. I start prepping the night before, cook all morning and afternoon and by the time everything is done
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    Font - I'm too exhausted to enjoy the food I cooked and eat. Last year I requested that everyone attending brings one side dish or dessert, no one brought anything! I had a feeling that's what it was going to be, as no one mentioned what they're bringing so I prepared for it anyway.
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    Font - Just to also mention, I have never been thanked for hosting or cooking. Literally by no one. All leftovers get picked over and taken home (last year I also had to cook the following day because there was nothing left to eat except some baked Brie
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    Font - that my MIL turned her nose up to, and I wanted to enjoy leftovers at least). This year I told my partner that I have no intention of cooking. If he wanted to host, he can cater.
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    Font - His reaction was "but that's our tradition ", "can't you at least make some boxed stuffing or something" and "everyone is planning on coming". My reaction was “nope that's your tradition“, "I will not make boxed stuffing" and "if they're planning on coming, you better put that catering order in". He has not spoken to me since.
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    Font - I also had to explain, and I shouldn't have to, that I haven't been feeling well. I finished an 8 month course of a pretty rough medication that dries out all the joints in your body, I've been achy and miserable and I feel stiff when I overwork myself.
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    Font - AITA for not wanting to entertain 20+ people twice a year, every year?
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    Font - I have decided to possibly sit out Thanksgiving completely, buy a pre-made single serving thanksgiving dinner at the local grocery store that just needs to be popped in the oven for a while and going to watch that new Lady Gaga movie.
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    Font - Pleasant_Cold · 10h Not only did he balk, he hasn't spoken to her since, he's the ah. If he cared about her he'd tell his family someone else can take a turn, cater it or do it himself. This is not how you treat someone you love. 4.9k Reply Share
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    Font - One-Tough656 · 7h I'm so so sorry OP. I hate all of these реople. My blood is boiling for you. If you want to DM me their phone numbers I would be more than willing to have a lil chat with them /s

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