Adopted 17-year-old finds out parent's have secret college fund for golden child little sister but not for him, he confronts them about it but they dismiss him: 'It's none of your business'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Dec 7, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Being adopted is a complicated issue for many. Even if you have the best parents out there who really wanted to have kids when they adopted you, the world around you may make you feel like you're lesser, unimportant, or unloved compared to bio kids. In the story here, there's a lot going on. The protagonist is a 17-year-old boy who was adopted. His parents were with him during his bio mom's birth, so the connection is deep. But three years into having him, the couple gets pregnant biologically with a girl. So now he has a little sister who he perceives as the golden child. They worship her, they baby her, she gets all the cuddles, love and nicknames while he feels like he's treated as a second class son. 

As he gets older, he finds out that his parents have a college fund for his golden child little sister but not for him. He confronts them about it, but doesn't get the closure he wants. 

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    AITAH for asking my adoptive parents if they have a college fund for me like they have for my sister?

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    I (17m) was adopted as an infant. My parents were in their late 30s and had tried to have bio kids for years. It didn't happen for them
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    for more than a decade so they looked at infant adoption. My birth parents chose them to be
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    my parents. My parents were present at my birth and my adoptive mom held my birth mom's hand as I was born. Then I
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    went home with my adoptive parents and the rest was history.
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    Three years after they adopted me, my parents found out my adoptive mom was pregnant with my sister (14f). I don't know if the
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    treated me different after that or if they were always a little less in love with me than some adopted
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    kids get. But I always felt that my sister was the clear favorite and their real child.
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    My parents adore her. They spoil her. She got all the cute nicknames like little sweetheart, baby star to list a couple of them.
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    They were also really obsessed with how much she looked like a perfect mix of the two of them.
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    Mom's eye color and nose, dad's hair color and round face and other features.
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    A few of my cousins used to rub it in real good that my parents had their real kid now and if they could send me back they would.
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    My family knew the said it but nobody ever seemed to care very much.
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    I didn't get cuddles and kisses like my sister, didn't get the quality time with each of my parents like she did, didn't get crazy spoiled
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    like her either. They didn't completely ignore me and I did get gifts. But they spent less on me and bought less for me too.
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    Maybe it was the fact I'm a guy and she's a girl idk. I told my parents a few times that I felt left out and they didn't change
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    anything or acknowledge it was true or not true. It was just like oh and then they moved on.
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    My sister noticed the difference and she'd make fun of it. She used to say she wished she had a
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    real sibling and not a fake one. Or how our cousins were her real family and not me.
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    A year ago I found out my parents had a huge college fund for my sister. They were talking to my aunt (mom's sister) about it
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    and how they had invested from a few things and taken from their savings for it. They never mentioned having one for me
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    which stung and I thought about it a lot. I got asked in school if I had money or would I get help from my parents for college and I
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    never knew what to say. I told them I didn't think so and then financial aid was discussed.
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    I reached out to my birth parents a few months ago too (my parents gave me their names and info they had) and they don't want a relationship with me. My
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    parents said they expected as much but figured it wasn't their place to say. They didn't comfort
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    me or anything and my sister said I had four parents who didn't want me so I must be broken.
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    Two weeks ago my parents asked me to speak to my guidance counselor about how busy they are and tell her she should talk college stuff with me and not them. I figured she wanted to find
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    out about the money and that's why she wanted to talk to them. It got to me and I asked them if they had a college fund for me like they have for my sister. They
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    asked me how I knew about it and got mad at me for asking the question. I asked them why they'd make sure she has one but not me when I'll be going to college
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    first and they asked me why I was asking questions that are none of my business.
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    It made me feel like shit and since that day there's a whole lot of tension in the house and my sister is rubbing it in that she gets a college fund and I don't. My parents never said either way but not saying anything is basically an answer, right? AITAH?
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