Ignorant Man Tries to Bust Coworker Through HR For Being 'Unfaithful' To His BF

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    Font - Posted by u/Moxxies_Thigh_Tattoo 17 hours ago 97 4 3 7 AITA for not telling my coworkers that I'm polyamorous and laughing at them?
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    Font - I (32F) am in a poly relationship with Ruby, my GF of 11 years and Louie, my BF of 10 years. The three of us all date each other and are 'closed off' to dating anyone outside of our current relationship.
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    Font - I never mentioned this to my coworkers because I never cared to, I don't tend to talk about my life while at work. A few weeks ago my coworker Ken, who was aware I had a boyfriend, saw me making out with Ruby at a bar and took some pictures.
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    Font - Не, аррarently, started telling everyone that I was cheating on Louie and showed the pictures of Ruby and I. I had noticed that some people were giving me the cold shoulder but I just figured it was something to do with my recent promotion.
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    Font - A few days ago I was talking to my friend in the break room about her ex and mentioned how much I hate cheaters, which prompted Ken and a few of my other coworkers to start 'calling me out' and tell me that I was a hypocrite.
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    Font - When I said that I never cheated Ken 'confronted' me with the pictures of Ruby and I at the bar and a picture of Louie and I on a date from last week. Ken kept asking "So who are you dating?!" while shoving his phone in my face, so I just brushed his arm aside and told him, "both of them."
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    Font - That only seemed to see him and others off worse and he started nagging me again and I started laughing. I wasn't trying to be rude I just actually found it funny how upset everyone was getting over my relationship that they had no idea about.
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    Font - He stopped talking after laughed and I took that time to explain my relationship and showed pictures of all three of us including ones of Ruby and Louie kissing and I joked about him taking pictures "like a stalker".
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    Font - Now a bunch of my coworkers are pissed that I "hid" my polyamory from them and are now saying that it's "my fault" that they now look like jerks for talking bad about me behind my back.
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    Font - AITA for not telling my coworkers that I'm poly and subsequently laughing in their faces?
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    Font - Edit: Just to clear up some things 1) Ken does not know either of my partners, he only knew about Louie and had no reasonable way of knowing if I was still with him at the time 2) I was unaware of any of the pictures being taken until Ken showed me them 3) Ken was definitely stalking me and I've been in contact with the police so thank you to my coworkers who reached out with some info about that
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for not telling my coworkers that I am in a polyamorous relationship and then laughing when they 'confronted' me about cheating on one of my partners with our other partner?
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    Font - Most_Poet · 17 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] Holy shit, 10000% NTA and this workplace sounds toxic af. Your personal life is none of their business. You owe them nothing. If they want to pry, snoop, jump to conclusions, and spread rumors, it's not your job to disabuse them of their unfair conclusions. It's their job to not draw those shitty conclusions in the first place. It's a job-seeker's market right now. Get out of this workplace if you can.
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    Font - chinua333 · 17 hr. ago NTA - you could be dating 10 people; and it's still none of their business. Can you go to HR? I think stalking and spreading rumours about you is probably against company policy.

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