Controlling Brother-In-Law Can't Keep Mouth Shut, Gets Publicly Slammed

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    Font - Posted by u/NeighborhoodJazz57 22 hours ago 2 11 e10 3 15 AITA for my response after my BIL said my dress was inappropriate for a family gathering? Not the A-hole Ugh! Hear me out! So My bil (my husband's brother) was married to a women from Greece, Her name is "Nana", and the reason for their divorce was because of how much my conservative bil tried to control her cloths and the places she went. He didn't want the divorce and was hopping Nana would accept the life he offered and stay but
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    Font - This happened 2 years ago, he now moved back with my inlaws and we'd see him more often. He tried to comment on how I dress on multiple ocassions and it's unbearable. but since my inlaws said he's struggling and depressed then I let it go. On friday my inlaws celebrated my husband's 30th birthday at their home. I wore a heart-shaped blue dress and had my hair up. While we were eating my BIL pointed at me and said that my cleavage was showing and that I shouldn't have wore this dress becau
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    Font - for me to blow up probably but I laughed and told him "Knock, knock! he said "Who's there?", I said "Nana". Now he paused and seemed confused at the mention of this name. He then faked a laugh and said "Nana who?" I said "Nana your goddamn business what I'm wearing! ok!". He got upset and quickly left the table. My SILS laughed but my husband and his parents were upset and later said that I was way out of line for bringing up Nana to my BIL knowing how heartbroken and depressed he is beca
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    Font - Sunny_Hill_1 · 21 hr. ago 2 3 2 Asshole Aficionado [10]] NTA. WTF? He drove his wife away by trying to police her clothes, and he has the sheer nerve to bring that subject up with you? You DID need to dig in to show him that his ex-wife was not an aberration, any woman would find it abhorrent to have a man dictate what she can or cannot wear.
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    Font - JCBashBash · 21 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [15] NTA. You should put the heat on your husband and ask him, "Why do you think I should accept your brother disrespecting me? Do you think it is acceptable for him to speak to me like that?" If your husband is willing to just sit by and let his brother act like a pig because it doesn't effect him he isn't being a good partner.
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    Font - Aggravating_Ad9046 · 21 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA. I sincerely doubt he's “heartbroken and depressed" I suspect his ego is wounded because his ex resisted his attempts at control. What he said to you was entirely inappropriate. It's also entirely inappropriate that his family continues to enable his behaviour
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    Font - PommeDeSang · 21 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [41] NTA. Depressed? heartbroken? Yeah no he's sulking because Nana refused to be controlled and manipulated a second longer and is not using you as a target/outlet. Don't apologize but feel free to have a long talk with your husband about how you're not taking BIL's shit anymore so he should probably do what he should have done THE FIRST GOTDAMN TIME AND PUT HIS BROTHER IN HIS PLACE
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    Font - SlipperWheels - 21 hr. ago My husband thinks I'm in the wrong as well and that I was being deliberately hurtful by bringing up Nana. Husband is partially right, you where being deliberately hurtful, and you did it brilliantly. NTA. Id be proud of that burn.
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    Rectangle - Megmca · 21 hr. ago Partassipant [1] I'll bet the reason your sisters in law laughed is because they have been likewise been "blessed" with his “advice."
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    Human body - YoureAGoodFriend - 21 hr. ago NTA. That's the kind of response I would only ever think of 4-hours after the initial interaction. You are amazing
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    Font - TKD_Mom76 · 21 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA. Dude is a controlling asshole. He tried to control his wife and she, rightfully, left. Now he's trying to control how his sil dresses? Nope. He is 110% wrong. The sooner he realizes that he has no power to police what anyone wears, the happier he'll be. If it takes reminding him of his wife who left him to get him to the realization, well, that's just what it's going to take.

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