Woman Judged For Refusing To Help Set Up A Wedding That Her Husband Is A Part Of

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    Rectangle - r/AmltheAsshole u/poshuser • 2d AITA for not helping to set up a wedding I was invited to? Not the A-hole
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    Font - My husband is the best man in an old friend's wedding. After we received the invitation, my husband informed me that the couple had asked that I, along with nine other guests, help set the wedding venu in between the ceremony and reception. The wedding party will not be doing it because they are going to be taking pictures and enjoying the cocktail hour with the bride and groom. Basically setting up tables, decorating, setting up place settings. During this time, the rest of the guests wi
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    Font - My husband simply agreed to this because he know the couple is on a tight budget. I told him that this was not okay with me and that had they asked, I would have told them so. I'm sure his friend asked him because he knew I would say no.
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    Font - This started a huge fight between us with him claiming that "someone else's wedding isn't all about me." I told him he could happily do it, but if this wasn't cleared up by then, that I would not be attending the wedding. This caused him to call me an even bigger asshole, saying it is my job to support him on that day.
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    Font - Edit to add: This is my husband's friend. I him kind of well because they have been friends so long, but I've met his fiancée maybe three times and never had much of a conversation with her. I would not be upset to miss this wedding. AITA? 2410 500 1, Share
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i might be the asshole because i told him i would not go to the wedding at all even though he RSVP'd that we would both be attending.
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    Font - Sea-Mud5386 · 2d Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA so...the wedding couple designated 10 of the guests as the donkey work they didn't want to pay for, while the rest of the guests get to party? And your husband will be one of the party people while you set up chairs in a cocktail dress? And then you get to stay late and tear it down? HAHAHA Husband can volunteer HIMSELF for this shit, but not you, and that he doesn't see what an AHish thing this is, he can not just go by himself, but be contemp
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    Rectangle - Sk111W • 2d Pooperintendant [66] NTA Your partner agreed to help as best man and you would be TA if you tried to stop him but you were invited as a guest and aren't obligated to work G Reply 4 4k 3 ...
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    Font - Littleballoffur22 · 2d Partassipant [1] Stop waiting for your husband to come back to reality and take yourself out of the free labor club now. Book yourself a spa day or a date with a friend or anything other than attend that joke of a wedding. You probably won't even be allowed to eat with the rest of the guests. They'll slip you a TV dinner while you sit near the bathrooms or something. (They'll probably also expect you to keep the bathrooms clean.) NTA but your husband and his friend
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    Handwriting - whatsmypassword73 · 2d Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] NTA, if your budget is tight have the wedding you can afford. If you're friends offer to help, good for you, but conscripting them? Tacky, tacky, tacky. G Reply 1 491 3 ...
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    Font - whynot246810 · 2d Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA, but your husband is one. How dare he volunteer your services without asking you. Also, it's tacky that the bride and groom are even asking for some of their guests to do this! They can do it themselves or hire people to do it for them. Don't setup. They can't physically force you to do anything. G Reply 654 3
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    Font - beelovedone · 2d Partassipant [3] WHAT? It is not your job to support the best man, it's actually not uncommon for the men in the bridal party to help with setup after they've had their pics taken but NOT GUESTS! NTA G Reply 合43 ...
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    Font - Peasplease25· 2d Colo-rectal Surgeon [48] NTA. That's not a wedding invitation that's 'volunteering'. I wouldn't be surprised if your husband suggested you, because, some men are like that. They get a kick out of volunteering their wife's, they feel it shows their status as the 'man'. NTA G Reply 1 270 ...
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    Rectangle - Wetnosedcretin · 2d Partassipant [3] So his wedding gift is your labour? How very generous of him, you've snagged yourself a good un. NTA. G Reply 1 82 ...

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