Wife Catches Husband Texting MIL About How She Is A Neglectful New Mom When Their Baby Gets A Rash

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/Sail-Flag-3779 · 20h 3 2 9 1 AITA for going off on my husband after seeing the texts he sent his mom which constantly caused her to berate me? Not the A-hole
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    Font - Alright. I'm going to be brief here. I have a 4 months old daughter. Motherhood is obviously difficult but with the pressure from people around me warning me not to mess up it became too overwhelming. Whenever my daughter gets sick l'd get a call from my mother inlaw (who's a medical professional) to point out what I did wrong then berate and lecture me about it although I do all can.
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    Handwriting - days ago my daughter started having diaper rash. Mother inlaw called me and was furious. I still had no idea how she knew. My husband said he didn't see or call her for 2 weeks. I had an argument with her after she accused me of causing my daughter her diaper rash and also called me "neglectful".
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    Font - last night, when my husband and I were lying in bed, he wanted to show me something on his phone. As he scrolled through his texts, I caught a text that he sent to his mom around the time our daughter got sick. I looked at it and it said that I caused our daughter diaper rash and then neglected treatment. I was stunned, he saw the look on my face and wanted to retrieve the phone but I took it and scrolled up and saw more texts from him basically giving her details about every move I make
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    Font - Things have been pretty bad after that and this morning he avoided me and refused to talk about it except to say that I overstepped by reacting with hostility. 10.2k 1082 1, Share
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think that I was the asshole for yelling at him and going off on him as opposed to sitting down for a calm discussion about the issue.
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    Font - semcg • 19h Partassipant [1] NTA. Stop taking calls from your MIL. Seriously consider if this is a marriage you want to be in. Kids get diaper rash. Insane your husband thinks its because of neglect. G Reply 1 5.7k 3 ...
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    Font - JudgiestJudgerson • 20h Partassipant [1] 11 Awards NTA. Post natal depression is so real and so isolating. Your husband has been a giant asshole. Instead of running to his own mommy, maybe he should focus on being a better father himself and helping out more where he can. The fact that he's gaslighting you and making this about your reaction as opposed to what he did to cause it is so typical. You didn't overstep, he overstepped by allowing, if not encouraging, his mother to berate and we
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    Font - jwjnthrowawaykfeiofj · 19h Asshole Aficionado [15] NTA Now is the time to take the gloves off. Block your MIL after telling her to shove it -- she is a failure as a mother for raising a mommy's boy who stabs his wife in the back. He is a failure as an adult man and husband and it's her fault. She can get back to you after she cuts the apron strings. Your husband needs to apologize to you and realize that if he doesn't have your back he is a failure as a husband. If he doesn't want to be a
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    Font - Agent_Onions · 20h Asshole Enthusiast [8] I know a lot of people jump to divorce too quickly in relationship-adjacent subreddits like this, but this would be a dealbreaker for me, and I think it would be for a lot of other people as well. This was an intentionally underhanded way to manipulate you and box you in when it comes to being a mother to a 4 year month old. Specifically designed to abuse you into compliance to mommy. The reasonable thing to do is to put mom on a detail-restrictio
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    Font - BaltimoreBadger23 · 19h Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] NTA: this is abuse via proxy. A child getting sick or having diaper rash is a perfectly normal part of having a baby, the fact that he's feeding his version of info to his mother and then she's berating you on it. Especially considering that almost all new moms get some degree of post partum depression, this attack on your self esteem cannot be considered anything but abuse. You were on his phone at his request and then saw what was there g
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    Rectangle - JennieGee • 20h NTA - but your husband is such a betraying AH that you should take your daughter and go stay with your family, indefinitely! Jerks! G Reply 4 1.2k 3 ...
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    Font - WholsJayne · 20h Partassipant [2] This dude is going behind your back to undermine and talk trash about you and then lying to you about it. Definitely yell at him. You also weren't snooping - he basically showed you the texts. Don't listen to his bullshit. G Reply 501 3 ...
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    Font - Devegas49 · 19h Asshole Enthusiast [7] NTA. I honestly think this is something you should not let go of. For the past several weeks, he's been texting his mother every time there was a problem with the baby and painting you out to be the bad guy and encouraging her to call you and verbally abuse you. He's trying to paint you out to be the bad guy now because you found the evidence. He is not a good partner. He's not a trustworthy partner. And what has he done to HELP YOU in these situatio

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